Breaking up.

[SC00BY]

I usually hate this sort of question, but I am really struggling. I am a female who has been living with another female. And bringing up a 3 year old. (since birth)
Now however, she has moved out and is seeing someone else. Although thankfully I still have contact with the child.
I feel like I am cracking up, Not eating, sleeping. Checking her facebook acount. I really want to start to move on but all I can do is think why? I stood by her more than anyone can imagine and now she has left, like it all meant nothing. How do I stop myself going mad?

[Ethel]

Keep yourself busy, spend time with friends and family and keep on living.

Easier said than done, but you can do it

[andy-hughes]

I do feel for you.

I understand all your frustration and anger, and hurt, which jickey for position in your mind.

Grief - and that is what this is - is a process that has to be ensured, there are no short cuts.

Some days you will feel OK, happy even, other days you will be desparate and distraught.

Know that these swings will even out as time passes, and you will get past this horrible feeling of anger and abandonment.

Try to make yourself not look at your ex's Facebook, it's only hurting you - hard to resist I know, but that pain is just not needed right now.

Come back if you need to talk again.

A x

[andy-hughes]

BTW - some people do think it is 'witty' to post some smart remark in response to a post like this - just ignore it.

He'll be along in a minute ...

[bemore]

I dont think anybody can really answer this question for you. Only advise you.

Its gonna take time, you have been together for 3 years so you have built so much of a life around one another that you depend on them.

Can I ask why you split up? It may help other people in advising you.

[SC00BY]

We've been together 6. Andy gave advice when she told me she was pregnant! She cheated.
I know deep down I am better without her. It just doesn't feel loke it at the moment.

[zzxxee]

do you work??? some overtime could help keep you busy?? do you have a good network of friends talk loads dont be afraid to lean on them and i no its a crap saying but time is a great healer crap but so true good luck

[SC00BY]

Yes I work, and I am desperately trying to keep busy.
And I don't know why we split. Have had no real explanation.
She is seeing someone else now. But I don't think it was going on before we split.
I just feel used, abandoned, and a bit lost.
She seems completely fine, like the last 6 years have meant nothing.

[Harry79]

aww this is a horrible situation for anyone to be in :-(
i wish there was something i could say that would make it better for you, but unfortunately there really isn't anything :-( I went through a break up just before xmas last year & it was a horrible, heartbreaking time. i know where you're coming from with the not eating/sleeping thing. but it WILL get better. unfortunately it just takes time.
xxxx

[puddicat]

Hi scoobs whatever youre preferences breaking up is hard,keep in touch with your child and you keep strong!!!

[minimonkey]

Scooby - i am in EXACTLY the same place - my boyfriend moved out before xmas after 2 years...he is having a great time (he moved away) and i never hear from him - i only know that he is fine cos i check his bl00dy facebook - i hate myself for doing it but it feels like my only contact with him. he just changed his status to single and that hurt so much. It is like the last 2 years never happened and i never existed but i am in the house and it all reminds me of him. I cried for about a month, lost weight, felt sick all the time - now i seem to be going the other way and eating constantly. i cant seem to find any enthusiasm for work so keeping busy is not working....apparently it just takes time so we have to give it time....plus am trying to go out more to take my mind off it...good luck! xx

[SC00BY]

Jesus, i'm sorry. Sounds exactly the same! I hate the 'single' thing on facebook. But have been good and nt checked for a week. Next time log on I am going to delete her!