Meeting new people/developing new interests

[Barmaid]

Right, I've been in a situation where all I have done for the last 2 years is work work work. I've now organised myself a cleaner and have a secretary coming for an interview next week. I've had a few internet dating skirmishes, none of which have been particularly fulfilling. Most of my friends are "coupled up", so I spend a lot of time alone. I can't join an evening class, because I can't guarantee I can go regularly (work dictates that). Any ideas what I can do to get myself out of the house more and just start to enjoy life? I can't do anything with any commitment - mainly because if I am booked for a trial I have to spend the evening preparing it. I already do voluntary work (legal, for a couple of local charities), this is something for me. I am about to join a gym/country club, but that is more for fitness and health rather than fun and meeting new peeps!

[legendis.god]

give up on men for a while

is sex that important?
because you aint really got time for much else


lol

[China Doll]

I'll go for a drink with you. :c)

I work stupid hours too at the moment... Well since I started actually so know what you mean. I joined the gym today because i hate being inactive and I'm forcing myself to make time for it. I know that I use the too busy working excuse a lot and while it's quite true, I also like my own company a bit too much sometimes as well.

[hau kola]

You will meet new people at the gym though Barmaid.

What about Bingo?lol

[Lakitu]

What about joining a walking / hill-climbing club, you wouldn't need to go every time they're out, but welcomed when you can make it.

[sara3]

take me out for a drink and we can discuss this further :o)

[terambulan]

Cultivate a circle of like-minded friends. Do shows, concerts, clubs, holidays & play golf. Finding a male partner is not the ultimate in 21st c.

Western women are so liberated with so much freedom that it frightens most males, who prefer women to be submissive and dependant.

[QueenOfAmber]

So you wanna man Barmaid?

[truffles]

When i was on my own my friends always made a point of inviting me even if the numbers were odd, have you tried to maybe organise the ocasional night out or get together yourself? in order to get out to meet others? I usually did quiet well at getting invited to party's which let to meeting others, You may meet others in the same position as you in the Gym. I always tried to look at meeting men not as possible husbands but as a new friend's, some i have kept as friends and it's how i met my husband. I was a single working parent and my situation was a little different, just get out when you can.

[Lakitu]

Bingo is actually quote good fun!

Barmaid, am I right in thinking you're originally from not far from me? I'll happily meet up for a drink next time you're 'home' :o)

[Barmaid]

China - know exactly what you mean! HK - I hope so. Lakitu - I hill walk in Scotland when I get the chance, unfortunately there are not many hills in Suffolk!!!! Sara, when and where?! Terambulam - I know exactly what I mean, but I need to meet people before I can cultivate those kind of friendships. I am not sure I am made for golf (no hand to eye coordination!)

[Barmaid]

Truffles, I get invited to various functions and balls, but most people are coupled up. My colleagues are really good at including me in stuff, but I am getting a bit fed up on depending on dinner party invites when I am the "odd one". Plus it is always the same people whom I know.

Lakitu, I come from Stamford in Lincolnshire originally and get back there regularly. I now live in Suffolk. My "adopted" home is Scotland.

[WhiteBear]

can i join too for a drink or two ;)

[China Doll]

Workaholics are very good at hiding behind work! ;0) I'm also fundamentality quite lazy too and just like doing my own thing. But I'd like to expand my social life now too so I'm thinking of doing an evening course but a short one rather than a long, vocational thing.

[sara3]

I'm in St Albans if you're ever passing.. same goes for.. well, a few others on here!

[Barmaid]

China, you and I have so much in common!!!

Whitebear - of course.

Leg - no sex is not important. If I want sex, I can get it. This is not about sex though, this is about my having a proper life outside of work.

[WhiteBear]

Well .. im in the middle of the Country... W.Yorkshire =(

[legendis.god]

well when you find the answer

write a book


if it was that easy

thered be noone on ab cb and the net

[Barmaid]

Sadly not no know!!!! Sometimes I wish I did!!!