Guys

[Therema]

Why is it when i get chatting to a guy i like, he says he likes me too and wants to meet up, then all of a sudden he starts to get weird saying stuff like ive got issues and gotta let the past go and things like that, when i dont, been single for yrs but been on my own for about 6 yrs now and very wary, is it because they feel they got something to live up to or what, im totally confused, BTW im not a young girl, im 50, *very young at heart* and would love to meet a nice genuine guy , whats going wrong ? any input would be gratefully accepted apart from nastiness thank you :)

[Therema]

Yeah Ive ive got a dog
http://i100.photobucket.com/albums/m38/Seusse/ MY%20PETS/SEUSSE.jpg
now you see why no one talks to me, does this look like a dog to you rofl my baby

[Ice.Maiden]

Don't pull yourself down. Might be better than someone who preens in the mirror all the time!

[Therema]

aww Ice thank you but ive tried every route there is, maybe i gotta go somewhere else other than the net eh ? who know, but i just think if he's out there for me he 'll find me, but hopefully before i get too old to do anything about it lol

[couchpot123]

Therema, always remember these maxims : you are as young as you feel & you are never too old for anything (especially these days). Stick to them & you won't go far wrong & STOP putting yourself down

[Ice.Maiden]

Awwww!!!! Cutey little thing!

Therema - you're never too old. I've posted this before, but I know someone who went into an old peoples' care home, met someone - and they got married - in their 80's!! Now I know you don't want to leave it another 35 years or so hun...but if you feel confident in yourself, you'll attract someone. Doesn't matter whether you use a dating site or not - there are thousands of unattached folk out there. I was once at a bus stop, asked this guy for the time, got talking - and he asked me out on a date!! OK - didn't go, but it can happen anywhere. Try late-night supermarket shopping! Single guys often go then, after work!!! : )

[andy-hughes]

I can't speak from personal experience, but a divorced lady in my office works in a similar way - chat sites and meetings arranged with people she likes to chat with.

She accepts the 'no-shows' and the 'Youre nothing like your chat ...' disappointments as an occupational hazzard of meeting new people in this way.

You simply have to go in with no expectations, no high hopes, and see what develops, and accept that it is more likely than not going to go nowhere.

If you take that approach, you have nothing to loose, and pplenty of life experience to gain - which beats watching the telly on your own any day.

[brenda]

couchpot123------ that really is not a nice way to talk about your wife,,a beer bellied slob!!!!!!!

[Therema]

Thanx all of you lovely people for the advice, maybe my standards are set to high too, my dream guy is about 5' 10, long hair of totally shaven, built like a brick sh!thouse, tattoos, peircings and motorbike, but now i'll just go with if he's breathing pmsl

[Velvetee]

I went through the dating site / online date scenario for a good while. To be honest, I found most of the men there to be committment phobes and unhinged in some way anyway. Perhaps it's a case of the pot calling the kettle black!

Have you actually met any of these men yet, or does it only get as far as online Messenger chat?

[Velvetee]

Also, what I found with online chatting, men seeemed keen to meet, but when push came to shove, they made excuses to back out.

I think alot of people enjoy the online fantasy, but couldn't handle actually meeting in reality. Other than that, they could be married or in relationships.

[Therema]

hi Velvetee, nah ive never met anyone off the net, i just like chatting to people and having a laff with my virtual friends, as you say the guys do all you say, this is why i dont usually bother, but i did decide to meet that guy from Ayr but again he went weird on me so i'll give it up as a bad idea, anyway my town has a festival in August for 1 day but this yr its for the weekend so who knows maybe meet someone there eh if im lucky

[lizzydrippin]

August? thats over 6 mths away!

[Ice.Maiden]

Therma - if you fancy guys like that, your best bet's to go along to bikers' meetings. If you join one of the clubs, they have social events going off almost every weekend of the year.

[Ice.Maiden]

For instance...

http://www.motorcycle-junction.co.uk/rallies/i ndex.php

You might even join up in time for a valentine's dance!
If you google bikers rallies, you'll get lots of info, and new members are welcome to write in, post a pic, etc. x

[Velvetee]

If I were you Therema, I'd get out into the real world to meet people. Perhaps join some kind of club, maybe like the one Ice has recommended, where you will meet people face to face. I would say you are wasting your time chatting to people online, other than for virtual entertainment.

[puppykins]

to be honest Therema I think you are asking in the wrong place luv. all of the lonely old wierdo women on here cant keep a relationship for 5 minutes let alone actually attract men. If I was you I would join a walking club. you get some interestibng decent people there. dont take any advice from these alcohol fueled bitter old women on here.

hope things work out for you luv

[Therema]

pmsl puppy im an acohol fuelled bitter old woman ;) well alcohol fuelled anyway lol
yeah biker rallies are a pretty good idea Ice, but i couldnt go alone, lost all my so called friends when my relationship ended, obviously thet werent friends so maybe it was a good thing eh ? but if i dont try anything roll on August one of my friends in myspace is from my hometown, he helps organise the festival so maybe he'll have some peeps he can introduce me too, we'll see