Is it complicated?

[brendanw]

I have fallen for my house mate, and although our tenancy we have developed a really close friendship. But now, in expressing my feelings for her, I fear that I have ruined the friendship and the relationship as a house mate I have have with her. She recently confided in me something which has seriously impacted her life, a close family friend has become seriously ill, and she hasn't taken the event really badly.

I guess the thing is that I was so absorbed by trying to deal with my feelings that I completely neglected hers in some unintentional inconsideration.

How do I fix it?

[Scarlett]

Don't make a big deal of it. You had feelings, you told her, she didn't reciprocate, end of the matter! Now you have to go back to being pals and housemates. Be there for her, and make sure you are open to listening to her problems. Apologise for mentioning your feelings, and say that it is now in the past and you have already forgotten about it. Then carry on as normal. Go out on dates with other people!