selfish operation and dad?????

[pocahontas]

i know this is ver selfish b4 u all have a go at me!
im having a full tummy tuck operation the middle of july.
nobody knows apart from my mother and husband.
i wont tell my dad coz he is very over protective with me. not only would he go mad, he probarbly would fall out with me coz thats the type of person he is.
he would get upset coz of how much pain i was in and he would go mad about the amount of money ive paid!
when i had my cesarean he made everyone run round after me and althouigh i was fine he was nearly crying! lol, i know its sweet but i cant bear 2 tell him. i dont know what to do. i was thinking of saying i had another operation instead but i dont know any operations that require a long scar at the bottom of your stomch.............can anybody suggest to me what ops are out there that i couold discuise it with?? thanx

[swanko]

sterilization?

[tamborine]

SIL had tuck for overweight after 4kids.....looked good for 2y but weight all back & resembles 'firestone' man.

Sis lost weight & sliced off surplus loose at stomach - 2y later loose skin hangs from waist over abdomen scar.

Dont bother!

[Velvetee]

I don't think it's at all selfish. If it's something you feel will make you feel good about yourself then there is nothing wrong in it. The main thing is you are happy with the surgeon you have chosen and confident in his/her abilities.

You could just tell your Father you are having an op related to women's Gynae problems. Men generally don't like to know the intimate details of a woman's waterworks. He doesn't need to see your scar either.

[pocahontas]

thanks guys but im defo have the op. cant say its sterelisation though because im only 22. the only reason im getting it done is because i have had 3 children and my belly skin is very loose. i dont feel confident atall.
i could say its something to do with my gynacolyic area which sounds good but how can i tell my dad its affected me?? xx

[k8bailey]

Don't lie to him - he'll only worry more if he thinks you've been ill. Surely he'll notice that you'll have lost weight anyway. Just tell him the truth afterwards, when he'll be able to see that you're ok

[sqad617]

Tonsillectomy that went wrong.

[sn�gs]

''Tonsillectomy that went wrong''

Tsk... wheeled in to the operating theatre the wrong way round... again...

[maggie01]

I would just tell him the truth. And just for the record, a friend of mine had it done and the pictures afterwards looks gross but when it had settled down, she was very pleased with the results.

[Nosha123]

dont lie to your porr dad.. even if you think its the best for him - he would be so very hurt you couldnt tell him the truth and tried to cover it up - it the op all goes well then tell him afterwards and explain how unhappy you have been with your body and how miserable it made you and that you are then much happier!
And DONT moan about being in any pain either!!! He WONT want to hear that too!
Just fluff over the details and make out the recovery was really very easy and not as painful as you had expected - and nothing like as bad as your c-section!

[pocahontas]

thanks guys but im still stuck. i dont want to lie to my dad but he will hit the roof if he was to find out! he prob fall out wiv me coz he dosnt believe in cosmetic surgery.
any more help???

[charlie82]

Hi ya. I totally feel for you. Not that I agree with you lying to your dad, as it all comes out in the end, but maybe try saying that you've got problems from where you had your c-section and need it corrected. That way you'll be expected to have a scar in that region and will be in similar pain. Good luck. x

[charlie82]

Doh, just read the date you posted your question. You've probably had it now. How did it go? I really need one too, got bad stretch marks and saggy skin from preg and c-section.