Advice needed - man who cannot commit

[bessieboo5]

Have started seeing a lovely man who has been very up front and has said he hates commitment. However we both really like each other. Has anyone been in this situation before and if so, can it work and how do I go about not frightening him away?

[China Doll]

I hope this isn't the same guy who's in to calling you for a quick off the hand job rather than a chat? If so, I think you need to set your standards a bit higher!

If it's not the above ^^^ chap then I think you've been told from the onset what to expect from this relationship which is not a lot really. He may just want to have the stability of someone to have fun/go out with as well as sex on tap and he may even like you a hell of a lot but he's apparently not up for a relationship, as long as you're happy with that too then sure, it can work. However, if you start feeling like you could seriously fall for the fella in question then I'd get your butt out of there quciker than a fly at a spider convention as I suspect that would end in heartache.

If nothing else, at least he's been very honest with you.

[Lorzy Lor]

totally agree with above - good luck

[ummmm]

Well she posted 2 days ago so I presume it is the same 'strange' man.

[sn�gs]

He has been honest with you... he hates commitment but at the moment enjoys your company... enjoy what you have at the moment... don't try to change him though... it won't work... unless he is willing/ready to change himself...

[beso]

If you are after a man who wants a real relationship then get out now and stop wasting your time.

Otherwise have some fun and try not to have too many regrets when he infects you with an STD or dumps you when you get pregnant.