First approch

[DPSA]

what is the best way to approch a girl for the first time?

im useless at it and dont do it cos i never know what to say or how to even get her to want to talk to me, like after maybe saying hello or something, how do you keep them interested and keep them talking rather than just walking away or laughing (happened to me a lot ) what do i have to do? is there an easy way to do it right?

[madmaggot]

They're not from a different planet; just relax and speak to a girl in a similar way to how you would speak to anyone else. This will be dictated according to where you are and the circumstances, for instance if you wanted to approach a girl in the park you wouldn't say "can I get you another drink" would you?

[DPSA]

ah but thats the thing, if i approch someone in the park who is maybe walking a dog, ill stoke the dog and ask what kind it is and then im stuck, not got a clue what to say next, think im just socially stupid!

[brenda]

Are you the same DPSA who posted earlier that your girlfriend of 2 years had gone to Brazil?


If you are. try saying what you said as a chat up line the first time , it obviously worked for you to have got into a relationship.

[TheMime]

ill stoke the dog and ask what kind it is and then im stuck,

Please avoid "Stoking" any animal as it is illegal in many countries..

lol

Seriously about the chatting up there is no set criteria,every woman you meet and every situation will be different,so there is no set protocol to be honest ,get some practice in with women friends,on the phone chatlines etc...till you become a pro and then hit the streets and scoop them up! Good luck!

[swanko]

geez you guys!!
we are human as well and get nervous just like you guys.say any think even its if just to chat about the weather to get the conversation flowing.ask her where she is going that will give her the opportunity to ask you the same question after she has replied.
.and please guys get it out your heads woman dont think your desperate because you want to chat to us.they love it.and dont try and rehearse what you want to say before,be spontaneous.even if you do get tongue tired its all the more fun.something for you both to laugh about.

[swanko]

the best advice i once had( only once it didn`t work for me lol)

is to treat the woman you are really really fancy, like the woman you dont fancy atall.

[Gnawer]

what is the best way to approch a girl for the first time?

The magical Answer is.................VODKA! Not too much and not too little, just enough to give you that invisible edge!

[DPSA]

i tried Guinness but it didnt work as well, had 8 to many and was a bit over the top!

breanda, i am the same DPSA but with her we were friends for a year before i even knew that i liked her like that. it was easy with her, we knew eachother well and i was comfortable with her!

[andy-hughes]

If you are approaching a stranger, avoid an aura of desperation - women can sense it from about ten miles away, and they will avoid you from the moment you open your mouth.

Relax, be friendly, and smile. Don't try and keewp her talking for ages. If you see a girl you like in the same place at the same time, you can start with a simple 'Hi' and a smile. In a day or so, try a little conversation about where you are - park or what ever. Ask her if she fancies some company on her walk - you will very quickly get a vibe if she is interested, or not, and if not, then retreat gracefully.

Remember, for a lot of women, being approached by a strange man is not a comfortable situation, so you need to take things nicec and slowly. If she is interested, she will respon, if not, keep your dignity, and return to a smile and a nod the next time you see her.

Good luck.