If gay men stereotypically go to their gym's showers to find casual sex, then where do lesbians stereotypically go?

[dyl11]

[sara3]

do they? have you not heard of cruising?

[Mr Veritas]

First of all there is no such thing as a stereotypical gay or lesbian,just as there is no such thing as a stereotypical heterosexual!
My gay grandson doesn't go to gyms to meet guys,that would be counter productive as many of the guys who go to gyms are hetero.
He like most other gay guys AND lesbians goes to clubs/bars to meet other people,exactly as hetero men and women do.
I get the feeling that you don't know very much about the gay lifestyle.
Well,it doesn't really differ very much from a hetero one,except in who they go to bed with.
heterosexuals bed the opposite sex,gay men and lesbians bed the same sex.
Apart from that there is not much difference in their life styles really.
BTW a recent survey found that (due to HIV/AIDS0 many gays and lesbians avoid casual sex,and that MANY young heterosexuals seem to be blissfully unaware of the dangers of casual unprotected sex,and sadly still imagine it to be only a virus that gays can catch.
Are they in for a shock!

[theoneiknow]

Women are more discreet but it is fairly easy to get sex as a lesbian, way too easy, you can go to clubs, gay events, and some discretely do it in airplanes and locker rooms or discretely pay for it. Just like everyone else, not that different. Keep in mind that gays and straights are not all that different from each other. But these days with all the diseases out there, people don't do that stuff like they used to before the coming of HIV. Now people date and get to know each other a bit more, this is good.

[andy-hughes]

As advised, only stereotypically gay men look for sex in showers - but as there are no stereotypically gay men, the concept is a useless marker for any kind of behaviour.

They myth - which indeed it is - stems from the 1980's American 'bath house' scene which is unreplicated in the UK, and well out of fashion now.

Gay people meet other gay people like anyone else - by being sociable.

It can be more difficult for gay women because women are far more subtle about their signals of interest, so any gay woman has to tread more carefully as opening gambits are rarely as obvious - except of course in gay bars and clubs where are a degree of expectation can be assumed, and initial body language fefncing can be dispensed with.

That said, women - gay and straight - are far better at men at giving and receiving signals of interest - or not, which is why they rearely make complete idiots of themselves with strangers in the way that straight men do almost as a matter of course.

[craft1948]

My daughter goes to GAY nightclub in London when she stays with her old mate from uni and his partner. She has been approached by ladies but lets them know she is hetero straight away and has never had any problems....although a few have said "what a pity".

[jackthehat]

I met my girlfriends in bars and clubs...........
I have also met a couple of more, ahem, casual partners in the same places.........however, I know very few girls who have met someone and popped outside for a 'quickie'..........

"With me, never a quickie.............always a longie" :o)

[jackthehat]

Actually, I wanted to be an Archaeologist..........but I don't suppose that is as amusing as your scenario, noknow.

And I'm not certain I 'wanted' to be a lesbian any more than you 'wanted' to be a 'hettie'............

[SpikieMikie]

Mr Veritas, I find it really odd that you should know about the dating rituals and sex life of your grandson ! I'm a gay guy, but irrespective of sexuality, the last thing I'd want anyone to know is when I'm off on the prowl to get my end away. May be I'm niave, but I thought clubbing was about getting wasted with your mates... or I'm completely off track lol.
I really disagree that stereotypes dont exists. A stereotype is based on popular generalisations and geralisations occur when sometimes is generally true. In my nearest city, a stereotypical Asian male is either a taxi driver or a newsagent, has many children and plays cricket in one of big parks just outside the city. That stereotype exists because, generally, that describes the most visible group of Asian men in that particularly city, albeit they will be a tiny minority of the Asian community. In fact, stereotyping has a political correct off-shoot called 'demographics', which is basically a study of people and stereotypes. Its not therefore wrong to stereotype, as long as we understand people are individuals, irrespective of what stereotype or demographic they fall into.
As for gay sex, dogging is to straight people what cruising and cottaging is to gay people, so we aren't that different. However, I think you're confusing the gym with saunas and bath houses... I've never seen any of thing go off at my David Lloyd. I have known people use saunas etc, even young guys, but the idea repulses me. Casual sex with friends or people you know of and like doesn't bother me, thats how single people maintain a sex life, but sex with a stranger you feel nothing for seems pointless and even seedy. I do think, from experience, stereotypical gay guys are every bit as promiscuous as most stereotypical, middle aged middle class straight people think they are.