Privacy, or Openess?

[ainitatyb]

What are the acceptable limits of personal privacy in a long term relationship these days? In my younger years it was considered unacceptable for a woman to access a man's wallet, or for a man to open a lady's handbag, but where is the line of acceptability in this day and age? Is it acceptable for example for partners to have open access to each others computers, email, or telephones in a long term relationship? What are your views?

[ummmm]

I don't go into his wallet unless he tells me to and vice versa.

I never look at his phone unless I need a number.....but can if I want, and vice versa.

He knows my passwords for email, facebook and here....and I know his passwords but only because I set up his accounts.

We have nothing to hide.

[pericat]

Same as ummmm and annie - access to all these things is there if you want it but trust is also there

[ainitatyb]

I find it interesting that handbags are still considered more private and personal than computers and phones, as this is my belief also.

Any more views from others?

[pericat]

I think that's mainly to do with personal female items that are in the bags

[ummmm]

The only things in my bag are...

Keys
Phone
Fags
Purse

And maybe a letter that needs posting.

[ainitatyb]

Are we saying that total freedom of access is acceptable? What about opening each others mail? Phoning unknown names in an address book to check on who they are? Are these also acceptable in an openness policy? Where is the line drawn?

[BagPussAA]

I open all the post in our house regardless of whether it is addressed to me or Mr BagPuss and I have his debit card in my wallet and use of his pin number. He trusts me and I trust him so there are no secrets between us. I would draw the line at "Phoning unknown names in an address book to check on who they are?" as this would mean that I do not trust him. That would just be like spying on him!

[Sqad]

Answers from all women, but no men. I wonder why?

How do you know that he has not got another email address, completely unknown to you?