He irritates me soo much. Why?

[gardenfairy]

Been together for 4 years, married half that, but everything he does irritates me. He started out the perfect bloke, loving, thoughfull, caring, all thing things us girls dream of. then just a few weeks after getting married, he turns into this lazy slob, grunts and moans and snaps, nothing is good enough, you help or sort things out for him, he always wants the opposite, so i gave up, i have tried my best in all areas and tried to speak to him, this man who i now consider an imposter is not that man i married. Has anyone got any advise on how to deal with him? please. Please also note i am self funding and have my own residence. i have not entrapped him for financial gain.

[waterboatman]

Are you sure he didn't trap you because you are self sufficient? If he won't talk to you. tell him to pack and go. That will at least make him take notice and you may then be able to talk. good luck.

[TTG]

Don't show any physical affection!

[Panic Button]

Tell him you need a serious talk.

Lay it on the line, what you have told us here, and tell him to change.

If he won't, walk away now.

[snags]

Or... get yourselves on Jeremy Kyle...

[craft1948]

Are you american?