Engagement ring

[darren27]

Please help! I want to propose to my girlfriend, only this is proving very difficult.

My problem is we only have a joint account, I have a decent job in sales and my partner is a full-time house wife (we have 2 kids) money is ok but my partner looks after money and therefore would notice money gone missing on an engagement ring. Especially the kind of money I have heard (1 months salary) I think she would notice that.

How can I buy a ring without it coming out of our joint account, and without her knowing the cost? We have a credit card too but again this is in joint names.

On top of this she is a bit of a funny one with money, for example last christmas a bought her a gift and she said I spent too much so for her Birthday I bought her some flowers and she seemed dissapointed. Women eh!

So I would like to get it just right, oh yeah she doesnt wear a ring either so I wouldn't have a clue what size to buy but maybe her mum could help with that.

I have considered asking her first and choosing a ring together, this would answer all my problems but i'm worried it will come across a bit tacky and like I haven't made the effort. I need to hurry anyway she has always said she wants to be married before she is 30 which is October next year

Please help!

[mcmelon]

That's true about white gold. It does need refreshing but I last had mine done just before our wedding which was a year and a half ago and it doesn't need doing yet.
If you can afford it go for platinum.
Keep up posted. H

[darren27]

Thanks everyone, still not sure what to do but will let you know what I decide, thanks for all your help though.