Why Did He Bother?

[Joeyjake]

I met a man last year who I liked very much but to cut a long story very short he was married and the relationship ended in August.

However he initiated contact with me again at Christmas but since then I feel like it's me that's been doing all the running and that I'm having to try too hard.

I sent him a text to this effect this morning and he hasn't answered. I've since deleted his number from my phone so I can't contact him again.

I feel in bits again now - just like I did last August when it ended. Why contact me again and then act so indifferent?

[pericat]

The quick answer to this is - he's married, obviously untrustworthy - forget him - you were right to delete his number

[ummmm]

He probably just wants sex...not emotion.

[Old_Geezer]

Because he fancies you, likes your company, but will not break up his marriage over you. He should have considered that giving in to his desire for renewed contact could only cause problems. You will be more savvy in future and ensure you don't get in that sort of position.

My best wishes for you leaving this all behind. Be sure that you do.

[China Doll]

Regardless of whether he's in love with you or (more likely) just infatuated with you because you're something new, if you're having an affair with a married man then get used to being second choice/second best at all times as you will never come first. Harsh but true and I do speak from experience. You can't be someones priority if they're more concerned that someone else doesn't find out.

[brenda]

Does it make you feel good chasing someone elses husband.?

You say you feel in bits ,I expect his wife may also feel like that if she knows.

Do you live in an area devoid of single men, or are you just desperate.?

[Joeyjake]

Thank you all for your kind words and advice.

Brenda, of course it doesn't make me feel good, unfortunately you can't choose who you fall for but you can choose to do the right thing, which is what I have done so chill

[brenda]

Joeyjake, of course you can help who you fall for , the word -- unattainable -- mean anything?

[cab]

Hes no good forget him

[Joeyjake]

Brenda, what a lovely life you must have if everything is so black and white. You're very fortunate.

[twizzle2]

unattainable!!!!!

if he isn't honest from the beginning and doesn't wear a wedding ring.i don't see how it`s possible to tell if his married or single.

you probably wont get an an answer, the question is to deep and loaded with emotion .

[Joeyjake]

Twizzle - I didn't know until a couple of months down the line - even went to his house etc, so thought he was single. I haven't purposefully set out to hurt anyone.

[ummmm]

That's very sad for you....says alot about him though.

[sara3]

whatever has happened, you've had a close shave. dust yourself off and move on.