I feel like my boyfriend is pressuring me into things. Im 13 and he is 15, he keeps saying he wants to finger me, but im not ready to, and i really dont want to. I tell him no, but he gets a bit annoyed. What can i do without ending our relationship?

[anonymous2570]

[snags]

Buy him a warm apple pie...

[China Doll]

If you don't wnat to do that then he should respect your wishes and if he doesn't then there is no point in being with him. It's really that simple.

[jno]

keep saying No. If he won't take no for an answer, you're better off without him.

[MarkRae]

Have you got any older sisters who could help...?

[China Doll]

Or you could buy him a warm apple pie yes.... <Rolls eyes>

[jno]

mm, yeah, like China says. Not like snags says.

[markh1972]

Dirty lttle git.....id chop his fingers off!!

[hannibalsmith]

Tell your dad, mum, some other relative or a teacher, you should never be pressured into anything you don't want to do.

[markh1972]

yeah id have a right word with him!!

[sara3]

I think at your age it's probably best to have a boyfriend of your own age. if he respected you, he wouldn't behave like that.

dump him.. you win :o)

[Mamyalynne]

Agree with sara - get rid.

[joggerjayne]

Remind him that if he "fingers you" he is committing a criminal offence.

Indecent sexual assault against a minor could start off his future career with a nice criminal record.

If he gets "annoyed" he is being selfish.

Start life as you mean to go on ... do not give in to pressure like this.

He sounds a creep. Tell him to sling his hook.

[S_C]

i can understand your reluctance to go the direction of letting go of your boyfriend.
At 13 your going through a very emotional tie in your growing up into an adult.

However i have to suggest that what i have seen here regarding responces are what i would myself suggest.

Your boyfriend currently wants to play with you " using his hands " . There are a number of reasons for this not to happen not least of all is your not wishing this to happen.

Not only is this illegal " as in playing with a minor " but it is morally wrong as it is not wanted " sexual assult carries a life long stigma especialy when a minor is involved ".

No matter how you feel for this person your own mind is telling you , you are not ready for what it is he wants and you should listen to this as sex and any part of it does indeed affect your future outlook regarding this, and could leave you scared for a very long time.

I would simply say to your boyfriend that you do not want this and if he persist's he will be dropped !

Sadly i imagine if he were able to get his way on this he would want to go further and further until full intercourse had been done. I am sure you already suspect this yourself, and your smart enough to know you neither want this in your life yet and realise there would be consequenses.

Your boyfriend should both respect you and your wishes regarding any form of sexual contact , if he does not then i feel he has a lacking of respect in your direction and your wishes. This is not good in regards as to how he thinks of you.

Not sure the answer you wanted is here, but i do commend you for seeking help in what i can imagine is a very embarrassing situation. That in itself shows maturity.

Which every way you choose to put him off i hope you choose what is best for you.

[XmandyX]

Don't let him take advantage of you,you are not ready,and the way he is trying to persuede you is wrong and selfish,stand up to him,or he will walk all over you!! good luck and be strong.

[brenda]

As has been said to do this is against the law, but here is something else to consider.
Do you think that this boy will not brag to his mates about what he has done , if it happens? You need to consider what kind of reputation you will get by allowing this, and bad names can last a life-time.Well worth thinking about.

[society]

Why do you want to keep a boyfriend who wants to pressure you into doing things you don't want to do? I'd sack the little controlling pervert.

[LoftyLottie]

End the relationship. You are far too young anyway to be in a permanent relationship with one boy. Have fun while you are young. You don't need this sort of pressure at your age.

[dothawkes31]

He's an idiot, a dangerous one, he's probably got away with this before and you won't be his first victim, think about that word, victim, you're not his girlfriend at all, just another child he thinks he can intefere with.