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[CaZwAz]

I'm falling for a guy i met on the internet, we have been speaking almost everynight, he's American and Im Scottish. We get on so well and Id really like to meet him, he is younger than me though, by 4 years... Im in my late 20's... We've made an arrangement that I'll go visit him in July for 2 weeks.... Im really keen on this. Im also a bit scared that i turn up and he's this young boy, and i dont know what his mother would think about a scottish girl coming over, and he says i could sleep in his bed with him, which id like to do but feel that this might be a bit cheeky to his mother, idk... I really want to do this though and have an adventure... I fancy this guy, we chat on web cam, we chat on msn, he phones me, were like really good friends now, i think im lucky to have met someone i get on with SO SO well...Yep i fancy him and I dont fancy any other guy at all right now, its like i've got love blinkers on and cant see anything else

[filthiestfis]

Good luck and dont listen to the many people that will tell you it wont work and the many that will be patronising to you and tell you that you're in la la land and he could turn out to be a murderer. Go with your instinct and common sense. My girlfriend and I met a couple of years ago online. She was in another country and came over to see me for a week. It was a risky move for her. It obviously worked as we have been living together for over a year. I wish you the best of luck Caz.

[smartie733]

if your not sure about stayin wwith him at his mums cant he come here and stay with you?

[BeaverDiva]

Go for it! Have fun and just use your own common sense. Make sure your family and friends know exactly where you'll be staying so they can contact you if need be. That's all.

If your worried about his mother, why not ask if you can meet her via the webcam before you go over - so you can ask her if she's sure its ok for you to come over and tell her how you're looking forward to it. That way, you know she's fine and she knows that your not just pushing yourself onto them and that you're going there because you've been invited.

Don't worry about the age thing - its nothing! not like you'll end up on Jeremy Kyle with a 4 year age gap ! xx

[China Doll]

I'd stay in a hotel and that way there's no reason to worry about sharing a bed under his mothers house. I think it would be unreasonable to expect the mother to put up a complete stranger for a couple of weeks regardless of how the son feels about them. You're both old enough to arrange alternative accomodation.

[beryl100able]

Good luck, you're falling in love. My advice to you is, this one is worth being careful with. You've got a lifetime to be in bed with him if you like him that much. An adventure? ok, but by the sounds of it, this adventure could last a lifetime IF you want it to. So go and meet his mum, get on with her and respect her. Tell him you think it's disrespectful to assume you can sleep together at his mum's and you'd rather save that for another time. He'll love you for it if he's worth having, and you may as well know right now whether he's worth having or not. And if you really get on that much, it's not ALL about sex. You want the relationship to stay meaningful right?