wow, who believes some things happen for a reason?

[OLIVIA26]

i'm currently applying the no contact rule to my ex partner who i was in an unhealthy relationship with. (he was constantly picking me up and putting me down to suit his life not ours.) see my previous questions if you want.After threatening to walk out on him several times and going back, i've finally left him as i was burning myself out mentally trying to sustain the relationship. He didn't want it to end, but we parted on amicable grounds. I haven't contacted him since we split, but its been a heart wrenching time, but i know deep down i've done the right thing, however last night my ex- my first EVER love text-ed me to ask if he could call me at the weekend to catch up!!! i haven't spoken to him or seen him in 12 years!! how bizarre? there is NO WAY that he could have known about me and my recent partner splitting up, as he lives 100 miles away! i have no inclination to reconcile with him romantically but i will always welcome friendship. i need to be on my own and love myself a bit more, but i lay in bed last night thinking what a weird coincidence, does anybody else think some things happen for a reason? life is full of strange twists!

[AlBags]

Best of luck with the new (old) one : )

[Prudie]

Yes I think one door opens when another closes. I would wonder how he had your number to text after 12 years, Mobiles and texting in particularlar were hardly invented back then. Good luck anyway even if this is just a little something to distract you.

[bigfoot3000]

How did your very first love get your number? Anyway yes I do believe things happen for a reason, Its usually at the end of a situation that you learn the lesson intended, So don't let this be another bad relationship, don't just "Dive in" and put all your eggs in one basket as relationships on a rebound sometimes end up in disaster. Seeing that your strong willed alow yourself a certain amount of time as your "cooling off" and "getting to know yourself again" period.
Good luck.

[OLIVIA26]

hi guys and gals. he contacted me via facebook and left his mobile no. we were good friends once, and enough time has passed for me to ONLY to see him as a friend. yes he broke my heart, but in 12 years i have learnt to forgive him Ha Ha. i want nothing more than a catch up and i wouldn't be bothered if he didn't contact me again. i guess maybe this is 'someone's' way of distracting myself from the heart break im currently feeling. I believe this has happened for that reason. i definately won't jump into a relationship or sex with anyone for a LONG time. I'm going to be content with me and my girl. I just thought it weird 3 weeks ago i was receiving messages from my most recent love professing his love and now i'm hearing from my 1st love!!. I hope only for friendship with him and a welome distraction from my current pain. i would never use anyone, even a guy that was unkind to me 12 years ago. I bear no grudges with anyone x