dont mean to sound harsh but i cant stand effing stand her!

[lotsafun]

Hi everyone, we hold alot of bbqs/parties throughout the year especially the summer for all our neighbours and friends, its kind of a open invitation thing where they can bring there friends along, just aslong as they bring a bottle or 2 with them. The only thing is both me and my partner seriously dislike my next door neighbours ''best'' friend, we do have our reasons, its not just that she thinks she's chocolate and thinks its ok to berate people, but because she is pure trouble and has almost split my partner and i up before now because of her sarcastic comments and rumours. Anyway she invites herself along and will do anyhting to draw attention to herself and to be quite frank my partner went nuts last sat night and had to walk away before he kicked off at her. He spent the rest of the night in the house because he couldnt bear to be near her, he done this because he didnt want to make everyone feel uncomfortable by kicking off. To try to cut a long story short i went and argued with him about it being our party and if anyon eis to leave then it is her and he said some very harsh, harsh but very true insults about her, all for this to be heard by everyone on our baby monitor lol. Despite her hearing what he thought about her etc you would think she wouldve left.......but no!
Anyway were having another on in a couple of weeks for my father in laws birthday and its going to be a pretty big event. Ive told my neighbour that under no curcumstances is she to bring that friend along with her and why, but the word is that she is the type that invites herself to things anyway. What to do, any suggestions? if she turns up i'll end up smacking her

[Whickerman]

I would suggest that your next party or two be invitation only, and strictly upheld as such. You should NEVER feel uncomfortable in your own home, or about asking unwanted visitors to leave.

[cazzz1975]

If she turns up tell her to leave, she was never invited. dont be intimidated by her, just tell her how it is, its your party and you dont want to ruin it by being scared of a stupid woman

[poodicat]

Agree with whickerman, invitation only!

[bigfoot3000]

its not just that she thinks she's chocolate?

[cazzz1975]

maybe she is smartprice chocolate?

[boxtops]

It's your house, you decide who comes over your threshold. Make it invitation only then if she turns up, say she's not welcome. She probably knows now if she was listening to the baby monitor - but some people have very thick skin, you may have to spell it out to her.

[Bobbisox]

Is she the type to revenge you for not inviting her lotsafun?
Just tell her she's not welcome, she has to be a bit thick turning up at someones house after creating trouble for them

[boxtops]

Sounds like it's about time she had her own party, to repay your hospitality. Tell your next door neighbour too, you have to make it clear how you feel.

[lardhelmet]

Are you inviting the next door neighbours lotsafun? If you tell them that this do is a family affair (which it is), that should be enough. Do they know you can't stand their best friend?

[yinyang]

What does your neighbour think of it all, seeing as she's the one that introduced this delightful woman to you. If she can't really see the problem then maybe you need to make the next couple of parties family and close friends only, as already suggested, and back off from your neighbours a bit as well.

Bigfoot, round here we'd say if she was chocolate she'd eat herself.

[lotsafun]

thats what i thought bobbi, i wouldnt dare turn up to a party if i known what she does about us nearly spliting us up. And not only that but if i heard someone saying about me what my partner was saying about her then there is no way i would stay! She just dont give a s..t about others.

[bigfoot3000]

Aah I see yinyang, I thought the word "Chocolate' was a swear word changed by this sites sweafilter! lol.

[lotsafun]

our neighbours are our close friends, we live in a fab street and we all get along great. I told my neighbour on the sunday why the night went all a bit off towards then end of the night and she said that she can see why we dont want her friend there, why we couldnt stand her and wont be telling her of the next one. To be honest though i dont think it is getting through to her either, today for instance i asked if she wants to come to zumba with me on thurs nights and she replies ''yeah i would love to, michelle was on about going to zumba too, i'll see if she wants to come too.

[yinyang]

Maybe it is Bigfoot. Why don't you start typing all the swear words you can think of and see if any of them get changed to chocolate. : )

[bigfoot3000]

Sounds like a great recipe for getting banned! lol.

[lardhelmet]

Don't mean to sound thick but what the hell is zumba?

[lotsafun]

lol its a new fitness craze, its a salsa/brazillian/cuban type areobic workout,

[bigfoot3000]

ZUMBA!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWNjKMOk55Q

dance

[lardhelmet]

Sounds fab lotsa! Can I come with you? We'll go on my motorbike & sidecar, then we won't have room for Michelle!

[lotsafun]

lol loving that idea