confused

[confused12345678]

im confused. lets just say im mid 20's and im still a virgin right? i havent had a girlfriend before. but no big deal on those 2 things. no, recently things have been wierd. i still find myself randomly flirting with the odd girl - but i dunno what it is - whenever ive been thinking about sex... i dont seem interested. infact it actually doesnt look like something i wanna do... i do... but i dont. so confused.

lemme explain abit better. when i see a girl i like, its wierd. before i used to fantasie about them, now instead, its almost like im just admiring how good looking they are, anything else and i dont seem interested. maybe ive been friends with girls for too long instead of taking things further?

even with porn recently - im watching it - but its doing nothing for me. it actually just looks stupid and ridiculous. and sometimes gross. and then i think "people get off on this?" and then i think "i used to" then i think "why not anymore?"

when ive tried to think about been with a girl - its like i feel like im... know it sounds wierd but it feels like violating them, like im imaging myself doing something to them that they couldnt possibly enjoy back, and then i feel wierd, like... disgusted. maybe its because ive never imagined a girl doing stuff to me - its always been the other way round...

ugh. i dunno. so confused. anyone else been here before? this normal? help :(

[Answerprancer]

It's just where you're at right now - everything changes and moves on. Don't give up hope - you'll find what you want/need when the time is right.

[oldexpat]

I wouldn't worry too much about it too much.

[sherminator]

definitely overthinking the situation!
Sex is the most natural thing in the world along with poohing!
if it happens properly it would most likely be pleasurable for her as well!

[Sonja85]

Dont worry so much Hun, it will all come when the time is right,,, in todays world everybody knows that everybody else is always thinking dirty of sex ( Generation 13-30 years old ) it is sad but true, it is not about haveing a experiance with ur better half anymore, or the feeling of wanting ti share eachother with eachother and being as close to eachother as possible,,, I must say as an Woman in her mid 20ties, it is very refreshing and good to know that there are still a few people out there in that age groupe that worry bout sex and not just think dirty things the moment they see a pretty woman,,,
Thank you so much for being who you are,,,

[tamborine]

I think you're discerning. Quite a mature attitude for a 20something. Possibly, high principled too and bored with the ubiquitous subject ?

[loofah-sir]

You need to see a sex therapist. You're a virgin? have you thought about popping your cherry with a hooker? They get paid to make you feel good so get wasted with some pals and then hit the red lights and you should be ok.