would you end a relationship if your partner had a cannabis habit?

[baggysenior]

i was out last night and one of my friends son's has just been arrested for stealing to help fuel his cannabis habit, then my other friend piped up and said her friend had just ended her relationship as she'd found out that her chap was smoking weed. I however, did know my man was smoking weed, and although i didn't like it, i accepted it because i thought i was lucky just to have some one.Talking about it i was shocked as to how many do smoke it. Is it an acceptable thing to do these days? Out of my relationship i can say i was a fool but how many would tolerate it in a partner?

[boxtops]

You are likely to get some very personal opinions in the answers! There is a wide range of views on this - some people see nothing wrong in occasional weed, others feel strongly anti as it could lead to other drug-taking. If these guys can't afford it, they shouldn't be doing it - and I know that sounds sanctimonious but I also know how easy it is to get into a habit.
My OH smokes tobacco and likes a drink, as do many - it's a fine line, but I wouldn't choose to live with someone using illegal substances.

[ummmm]

My ex smoked it like fags....still does.

I have no issue with it to be honest. Depends what they are smoking and how often. OH use to smoke a lot but stopped when I moved in. He also gave up smoking cigarettes. I use to smoke it years back to help me sleep...haven't touched the stuff in years though.

[society]

I believe it's a personal choice.

[Sqad]

No problem with me.

I would never get into a relationship with someone who smoked Cannabis.

[cazzz1975]

like sqad I would never contemplate any sort of relationship with someone who smokes cannabis, I lived on a rough estate for years and saw first hand the damage this so called innocent habit caused to families and children.

[madmaggot]

I wouldn't go out with someone who smokes tobacco so would certainly not entertain this 'dope'.

[sara3]

I agree with madmaggot.

each to their own but it's not for me.

[ChuckFickens]

I think there is a big difference between somebody have a joint occasionally and somebody having a habit (same as there is between somebody having a drink occasionally and them having a alcohol habit)

If anyone wants to have the occasional joint and it's not effecting them leading their life in a normal way and they can afford it without other areas of their life suffering or having to resort to stealing to fund it then I wouldn't have a problem with it, if it has become a habit which is effecting their life, work or finances then I would class it as a problem the same as any other addiction that has taken over rational decision making.

[madmaggot]

The problem is that these things have a tendancy to, as you say, take over your life. I would worry about the mentality of a person who knows the dangers of addiction but still insists on playing with it.

[ChuckFickens]

You could argue that nobody should drink alcohol for the same reason though, mm.

[madmaggot]

Yes.

[AlBags]

I know a couple of girls who appear pretty respectable .. but they do skunk like it's going out of fashion. I warned them about it but they take no notice. One of them is turning pretty nutty.
Moderation .. and at home .. maybe ok.

[DaisyNonna]

No way

[pastafreak]

I am of the same opinion as chuck on this. I smoked it a bit to relax, when I was younger...it just never 'did' anything for me. I knew plenty of other regular users,none of whom were addicted,developed anti-social tendencies,or were particularly paranoid. Like alcohol-everyone reacts,and handles it differently. It all depends on the individual.

[B00]

Ya know the most shocking thing about your post baggysenior?

This bit...

"i accepted it because i thought i was lucky just to have some one."

I thought that statement terribly sad. Never settle for something less just because it's better than being on your own, as in the end, it's not.

[mccfluff]

depends on how much they smoke, i have the occasionly j but not so often now, i have friends who smoke all day and that's a bit extreme for me, anyway

[baggysenior]

hi guys, sorry i didn't enter into a discussion with you all about this, i've been ill! Anyhow, on the mend now. Interesting to see everyones opinion. I knew i'd get a cross section of opinions. Seems there's a reasonable argument for and against it.Again, i expected that. I personally don't take it but my ex would smoke it up to 3 times a day.i guess, if i'm honest, i actually preferred the person he was after he smoked it! he was less intense. not so down on life and was really loving towards me. Out of the relationship i can see the other side. He could be a very moody angry man who was generally down on life.oh and paranoia. That was clearly displayed when he ended with me 'you lied, you need to find the humility to acknowledge it' errr i 100% didn't lie.
Yes i was blinkered, yes i have VERY low self esteem so i did think i was lucky to have someone, but when i saw the pain in my friends eyes caused largely by her son's addiction, i felt incredibly guilty. Also when i heard of others stories i couldn't believe how many sad stories are related to this drug or plant. Yes the same can be said of alcohol or any drug.
I'm not saying its right or wrong.
It's wrong for me because i've been on the receiving end of the paranoia and anger.
What a world we live in. Thanks for all your comments.