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No, he decided he did not want to be living with either wife or daughters, aged 14 and 11, and upped and went, had various lady friends , wanted the dream life of own spacious loft type apartment (dream on) with daughters to stay when he wanted them to! Was made redundant, and got another job immediately,which meant that the redundancy money was " his spending money" but of course it has all gone, has maxed out on one credit card, which has been taken away, and is almost at limit on the other. His bank balance is virtually nil, and he said "he didn't realise how expensive things were!!!"
I can just see the day when he says he cannot afford to pay half the mortgage anyway, but the vision of having to sell their house to pay off his debts makes me more angry, especially since he has acted very immaturely instead of paying his debts immediately.