so called bestfriend!!

[hazel999]

Sorry I need to vent!!
I have posted on here before about my friend excluding me from everything and keeping me seperate from her friends, yet wanting to be invited and friends with my few close friends and arranging meeting up with them behind my back.
Well here is the latest which has really upset me. Its her 30th today. I asked her yesterday if she had any arrangements and she said no but seemed shifty about me coming over to drop her present off and said she was busy with family and couldnt say a time which would be convienient and to leave it until Thursday. What she didnt know was on Monday I saw her messaging a friend on fb (I wasnt snooping it came up in the side) about everyone meeting up tonight, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and thought maybe she might still invite me, until last night when she still hadnt mentioned it.
I decided to message her as I thought this is what she would do if I had done this to her. Now she is saying its a surprise that her friends have organised, yet havent invited her ''BESTFRIEND''....yet she seems to be in on the ''surprise'' and has been for at least the last 4days....what are your opinions on this, do you also think im being taken for a fool??

[mccfluff]

i think you know the answer to this...

'best' friends dont act like this

[I.Don No]

short answer.......yes, of course......'friends' do not do this to one another.

[Ankou]

possibly. do you have other friends ?

[redcrx]

i think that you see her as a best friend, but that she perhaps sees you differently.

demote her to just a mate and dont get so het up about what shes doing with other people, its only going to upset you each time.

[B00]

Good lord, she's 30? and you are too I assume? The pair of you need to grow up, and get different friends.

[Bobbisox]

in short, hazel...she is not a friend

[ummmm]

She's not your best friend...

[B00]

He lies ^, he has no friends

[hazel999]

I moved away and lost a lot of friends and havent managed to get friendships back. I have 3 really good friends and then others I talk to over fb but would consider them as friends really.
I find it really hard to make friends, not because im not a nice person or anything just because the opputunity at nurseRy or school when i drop the kids off hasnt arisen (my son changed schools so we ae both having to start over).
I's not the case of putting all my eggs in one basket with her Im just fed up of giving and inviting and not recieving anything. Like someone said eachtime something happens now which I'm not included in its upsetting. I dont expect a invite to everything just the occassional one would do.

[Bobbisox]

Have you discussed this with her?
How you feel etc;

[MsEVP]

Ah, hazel, you are not being treated respectfully and this is not the action of a `bestfriend`

My advice is to lay low with her and when you can (£7) buy Judge Judy Sheindlin`s book BEAUTY FADES, DUMB IS FOREVER. It can help you also.

[BrainsTracy]

Ignore her, she is not your friend, if in your entire life you encounter 5 friends you'll be extremely fortunate. You are only a fool if you continue to let her carry on like this, the best way is to ignore her totally.

[hazel999]

I have talked to her many times about it. I have known her for 13yrs now and she knows all my friends and is included in everything yet I cant say one of her friends is a friend of mine. We both have a baby and she meets other mums for coffee and shopping trips, walks in the park or going to eachothers for coffee and they bring there friends along occasionally, yet not once have i been invited. I asked her about coming along and she said well I talk to Alex about work when we meet up and dont think its right if you was there, yet she wants to come along to everything i do...tbh I feel really lonely and she could help me meet some other mums but I feel she likes seeing me like this. Which means she isnt a friend at all.

[B00]

Are friends, or in your case best friends, THAT important beyond school anyway?

[Ankou]

ditch the bitch

[brenda]

This person is not your friend and maybe never has been a true friend . She seems to be a user of people and you are worth far more than this.S o kick her in to touch , she is not worth you being upset by.As you go on through life you will find some true friends , and they will never treat you in this way.
So keep smiling , don't be down and am sure that in the future you will have the real benefit of true friends.All the best.

[Smowball]

Sorry, but she is getting a kick out of you being needy. she sounds absolutely awful and I would tell her to bugger off, you sound far too nice for her