Family holiday problems

[malagabob]

Have had this family holiday booked since last year. As a treat I am paying for all 16 to have a week in a hotel together
My sons ex partner has all ways had a chip on her shoulder, you know the type everyone does not like her. which is untrue. If nothing goes her way others are at fault.
Well we have been trying not to upset her for months as we know what she is like.
Yesterday my son who is back living with me got into an argument with her, she stormed out saying shes not coming and she will stop her son and my grandson from going as well.
Its not so much the money I will lose but, my wife was looking forward to all of us going.
What would others do. Would you be nicey nicey trying to get her round, or say sod it if you dont want to come F**K you

[ChuckFickens]

The latter.

[ojread2]

agreed, the latter
Let her strop off
You'll have loads of time to see your grand child after the holiday
Maybe people have always given in to her strops hence she is like she is?
You yourself said you have been trying not to upset her for months. Why?!
Let her sulk, SHE is the one who misses out

[boxtops]

Bob, how can she stop her son and grandson going with you - presumably your son is a grown man?

[Smowball]

The latter

[sandyRoe]

It must be a great temptation to do as Chuck and OJ have suggested. But if you were to appeal to her better nature and tell her how much your wife was looking forward to spending time with the grandson, she might come round.

[brenda]

All the rest of you go--enjoy -- and leave her behind.

[ummmm]

The latter.

Boxy - it sounds like she may have a son from a previous relationship.

[santhan]

I always with the soft side. I suggest for a soft discussion with her and of course with the grand child if he or she understands the situation. Make them understand and don't leave them after got an issue. You left and go for a trip, that will make them more angry

[ummmm]

Or it might make her sit back and revise her behaviour.

[malagabob]

boxtops. Where do I and my son stand by taking her sons out of the country without her permmision, thanks to all for your comments

[woofgang]

Is he on the birth cert as father? If he is and nothing has been set down legally to contradict this, then he has the same rights as the ex and can take the kids on hols.

[emkay0145]

I think I would say "we wish you would change your mind but we will understand if you are still angry and really don't want to join us" and then I would point out that it would be a shame for your grandson to miss out as well and you would not want him to feel left out (especially if he has cousins going).

[malagabob]

Thanks to all. My son and his ex are talking again,and she has changed her mind and is coming. At the moment anyway.