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Is there any way i can feel better?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.You poor thing... I know exactly how you feel & it's really not nice :-(
I think I always felt better when I was around people... I know I wasn't much company, but if I was on my own I'd start thinking & that started me crying... being around others will be a distraction. I also found that I'd listen more to the lyrics of sad songs... & end up crying... so avoid!! Only listen to happy music!! But not 'your' song!
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Stop thinking about what you did together and plan what you will do alone or with friends, look forward to your life and try to focus on how much better it can be now you have the world at your feet. Dance to happy music,visualise your self in your favourite countries (without your ex) picture your self having fun with your frinds and organise a big girly night out somewhere you can all gossip with plenty of wine.
f you imagine a wonderful life without him then you can ,ake it happen. Also you dont mention if you want him back, but if you did there is nothing more attractive to an ex boyfriend that seeing his ex girlfriend full of life and having fun and looking to the future.
good luck and chin up!!
I agree with both fairy and butter 1 - but to add to it... going out with friends and just being chatted up by someone else (maybe even a snog!) gives an amazing boost - it worked wonders for me!!
The emotion and hurt etc are still there when you get home ... but at least this way - having a laugh, nothing heavy - you have something else to think about and a confidence boost doesnt hurt anyone does it!?
Hi hun, Hope you are feeling a bit better now. I know this isn't the sort of thing you can get over in a night but it will get easier. If you left the relationship with loads of unfinished business then you might feel better if you write you ex partner a letter getting everything off your chest. You don't have to give the letter to him it's just a way for you to express yourself and maybe lift some weight off your shoulders. I hope this helps you.
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Oh sweety - it's sh*t isn't it. You have to remember that it WILL get better, that your body and your mind need time to readjust and you must let yourself grieve the loss. The loss is overwhelming sometimes. Try and make sure you're busy. Taking time off work is fine, but what about spring cleaning your house or room, go shopping, do things you've been putting off. Or better yet - do something you've always wanted to do but couldn't because you were in a relationship. (I went to Jersey with 30 rugby players :)
The other biggest thing i did, which with hindsight was probably my saving grace, was that i had no contact whatsoever with him for over 3 months. I deleted his number so no drunken text messages, i avoided all conversations about him with mutual friends and i stayed away from the places he goes. At times the desire to call him was excrutiating (normally when drunk) but it was the thing that kept me sane and i believe helped me to heal sooner. Keeping in contact simply prolongs the agony.
Sorry for such a long post, but my heart goes out to you and everyone in a similar situation as i know how horrible it is x x
hello sweetie, sorry hear what's happended. Sometimes you just gotta let yourself go with the flow and don't be too hard on yourself whilst "moving on" You are gonna have good and bad days ... treat yourself like a small child and be really gentle with yourself for a while.
A guy at work is going through the same thing and he has said that it's helped to talk with all of us and altho he says he isn't good company at the moment we all love him to death and I'm SURE there are people who feel like that about you. Us ABER's for starters ;-) chin up girl and slowly you will start to let your hair down again and enjoy yourself. xxxx
LL, I know how you feel but it's not your responsibility anymore. I know that sounds harsh - but he will only learn by making his own mistakes and he wont stop the drinking or anything else, for any other reason than he wants to. My ex was a big drinker and a big drug taker, and constantly in trouble, i found it really really hard to stop worrying about him and to get used to the fact that i had no control over what he did or didn't do anymore, and i used to worry about who would look after him if he was in trouble.
I can promise you, that now, whilst i still care what happens to him, I am so greatful that it's not my responsibility anymore. A lot of people end up in relationships where they end up 'looking after' the other person. The same way one might look after a child. It's not healthy.
He will be ok, but you have to try and disengage from it. hope your weekend is a good one x
Wow, I know where to come when I need some support during a hard time, everyone has been lovely here!
Little Lady, I would agree with what everyone has said and whatever you do, don't waste Friday and Monday. It's nice weather at the moment, why don't you and some friends book yourself into a B&B in Blackpool for a long weekend or something? Or if one of you has a tent, go camping somewhere you haven't been before. Take loads of wine and have a barbeque on the beach/by the river (depending if your destination's coastal or inland), etc.
Anyway, whatever you decide, just make sure you have a F-U-N weekend, you deserve it!
this is not maybe the view everyone would take and not very sympathetic but is exactly what i did myself when i split up with a longterm partner. Although I did allow myself to 'grieve', when I was particularly down I reminded myself that all i had done was split up with a partner that I should no longer have been with anyway but there are people out there who are a lot worse off than me. There are terrible things going on in this world, alot of death etc and what i was going through was nothing compared to what these people must be going through. You have been able to make a choice as I was. I have now completely moved on with my life and am incredibly happy although still currently single.
try and keep urself busy
talk to one of ur friends about whats happened and how u feel
dont analyse and think what could i have done (you cant do anything - u more than likely did all u could)
get drunk and let it all come out - u will feel so much better for letting go of ur emotions
Dont know if this will help - hope it does though!