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Well the truth is we don't forsee having to pay for care. However, who knows how long we will live and how we'll be later in life. It's obvious that even if you only own half a house, some of its value would have to go for this purpose, which is fair enough, but losing the whole value of your house, that you'd worked so hard for and would have liked to leave to your kids/grandkids.
People of our age, are so lucky to have had access to good jobs, reasonably priced houses, and good pensions. Our children, and especially our grand children aren't going to be nearly so fortunate, so it would be nice to feel you can at least leave some of what you own to them. If we leave actual cash I'll feel we've died too soon.
Seriously though it is a bit of dilemma and I fully accept we are going to have to consult a solicitor. No doubt that will be a costly business as well!!