Well if it is all agreed then sobeit, however I would have thought you would have been able to stay in the house and keep most of it, and there is his pension to think about. However, sometimes it is best just to draw a line in the sand and reading between the lines you sound as if you have the love and determination to do it, so good luck. What you should do is pop along to the council and have a chat with them in the benefits section, and I am sure they would be able to advise you.