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Heirloom as an engagement ring
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Hi everyone,
My boyfriend and I have spoken about marriage, but we're really trying to save for a house now. I have a diamond ring that was my great grandmothers that would make a lovely engagement ring, but is it common for the heirloom to be from the woman's side of the engagement? Ultimately, I don't care what others think if I use it, but I was wondering if others have done it or if it should traditionally come from the man's side of the family.
Thanks!
My boyfriend and I have spoken about marriage, but we're really trying to save for a house now. I have a diamond ring that was my great grandmothers that would make a lovely engagement ring, but is it common for the heirloom to be from the woman's side of the engagement? Ultimately, I don't care what others think if I use it, but I was wondering if others have done it or if it should traditionally come from the man's side of the family.
Thanks!
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My engagement ring was made up from my gran's ring which was good but had no stones in, and my mum's which had diamonds but the ring had worn thin. The two together made a lovely ring so we were all happy. What made it more special was the fact that my grandad was a jeweller and had made my gran's gold band. When you are saving up every penny counts and I would rather have...
21:22 Sun 18th Jul 2010
He should buy it from you....just the act of him passing the money across even if it goes into your savings makes it ok.....a friends partner did this so she could wear her great grandmothers ring they could never have afforded anything so beautiful otherwise.... I think he gave her about £500 as cash for the trade as that was the amount he could afford... of course it went into the joint account
My engagement ring was made up from my gran's ring which was good but had no stones in, and my mum's which had diamonds but the ring had worn thin. The two together made a lovely ring so we were all happy. What made it more special was the fact that my grandad was a jeweller and had made my gran's gold band. When you are saving up every penny counts and I would rather have a ring with sentimental value than some of the cheap rubbish you see nowadays, plus they both had happy marriages so that was nice too!
Yeah, he did propose but it was three years ago (we've been together for four) and I felt it was just too soon. So the topic has now come up again. I haven't discussed my great grandmother's ring with him yet. I mentioned it to my brother's wife tonight and she felt my mom gave me the ring for this type of situation (She gave it to me about 7 years ago, before I'd met my boyfriend.)
My idea is almost the same as Rowanwitch's yet totally different!
I also think that you should 'sell' the ring to your boyfriend in a formal transaction, so that he can then give it to you as a sign of your engagement (and, of course, of your love for each other). However I'd suggest that you should hold an 'almost-engaged' party where you call for everyone's attention and then offer him the ring for the price of a kiss. After he's given you a public snog (probably to cheers from your friends and family!), you can hand him the ring. It will then be his turn to go down on bended knee and formally propose to you ;-)
Chris
I also think that you should 'sell' the ring to your boyfriend in a formal transaction, so that he can then give it to you as a sign of your engagement (and, of course, of your love for each other). However I'd suggest that you should hold an 'almost-engaged' party where you call for everyone's attention and then offer him the ring for the price of a kiss. After he's given you a public snog (probably to cheers from your friends and family!), you can hand him the ring. It will then be his turn to go down on bended knee and formally propose to you ;-)
Chris
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