Problems With The In-Laws

[chrisuk013]

I need some real urgent advice with real problems i have the In-Laws.... I really am losing the will to go on and fear really soon am just gonna explode! I know in life everyone has a run in with there In-Laws but i really am thinking about walking away from my girlfriend of 4 years if these pair do not ease up! Its everything from Being Nosey,Interfering,Checking up on us as we live about a mile from them,leaving us out,spending ALOT more time with my partners sister & partner,treating us like children... I really could go on. . . Please Help!

[bednobs]

you are a bit contradictory, either you want them to leave you alone or see you more? What do you want to happen? If you work that out, just talk to them!

[snags]

''i really am thinking about walking away from my girlfriend of 4 years if these pair do not ease up!''

Er... you need to remember who your with and why. If you don't want to be with your gf because of her then fair enough... but leaving her because of her parents?!

[craft1948]

Things could be worse...........I could be your MIL.........:-)

[China Doll]

If they're being nosy, interfering, checking up on you etc... then why would it bother you then they spend more time with your partners sister?! I agree with bednobs.

[ummmm]

I understand where he's coming from Bednobs. Being checked up on and being left out makes it all the more annoying..

What does your GF say?

[chrisuk013]

Snags... Yes i would leave her because of her parents. Its got to the extreme now where i am having to move house to get away from them! Bednobs... I think i need to get her father on his own and speak to him, However he is a bit 'Girl' and may start crying if i tell him a few home truths!

[redcrx]

"Yes i would leave her because of her parents"
so how would hurting her change their opinions?

havnt you only just proposed to her?

[chrisuk013]

ummmm... She just wants to protect her parents from the truth!

[chrisuk013]

redcrx.... I propose to her every night...

[ummmm]

You don't have to be harsh with the truth...

[redcrx]

is there any feeling behind that proposal if you can consider walking away because, not of something she has done, but her parents?

[chrisuk013]

redcrx... I really dont need false people in my life. Am sick to the back teeth of the sight of them!

[redcrx]

ever heard the phrase "cutting your nose off to spite your face"

[ummmm]

Yeah...wot next?

You'll be single and still in love with someone you've left...

[chrisuk013]

ummmm... Or be with someone who has a mum & dad who drive you round the bend? Not only that has had to move to get away from them watching your every move?

[ummmm]

Depends what will make you more miserable. Leaving someone you love is not going to make you happy is it? You'll just have to say what you need to say regardless of what your GF thinks.

[bednobs]

the in-laws may have many faults, however, tthe biggest fault you seem to be attributing to them is not being mind readers! If you find they come round too much just tell them. If you want to see them more, just tell them. If you don't like the way they have gone about something, just tell them

[Nosha123]

"Checking up on us as we live about a mile from them"

Do you mean.. they pop round to see you????

I wouldnt really call it checking up on someone!

Then 'leaving us out'

Maybe you need to be a bit more mature and speak to them politely and explain how you see things differently from them...