got brothers ashes today

[slinky.kate]

i was very upset by the way they sent them,they were not in an urn,just a brown stapled bag with his name on it inside a box,when son was unwrapping it as it was sent by post,you could see little bits of ashes falling out,so we are off to rothesay next week end to say our final farewell,scatter his ashes and bring some closure on this.

[Bobbisox]

awww Kate, Bless you, honey,,,,x

[anneasquith]

at last............... ♥

[lady-janine]

sorry to hear this. all my best wishes for next week. bless you all.xx

[starone]

How upsetting for you kate. Bad enough having to do it without something like that happening. Never mind, you are doing your best for him and for what he would have liked.

[Bobbisox]

I wish there was a remove button Kate for my below you thread...Sorry

[slinky.kate]

it was crap the way they sent them.

[cazzz1975]

that does smack of a lack of respect!, how awful, I hope your trip to rothesay is a better one x

[mccfluff]

oh that's just disrespectful, sorry kate, but hope it goes ok when you scatter them (that sounds wrong sorry)

[slinky.kate]

is that the usual way you get someones ashes if its not in an urn ???

[Mamyalynne]

That is just not right, but I am glad at least that you now have them and can scatter them where you wish to ♥

[brenda]

A disgraceful way to return ashes to the family.Try if you can to see beyond this issue at the moment and place your faith in your visit to Rothsay.

[starone]

I think you have to pay extra for an urn, it is not automatic. When my husband died he left instructions for his ashes to be put into his grandparents' grave and for that we picked out a small coffin as well as the one he went into the crematorium in.. You would have thought whoever did the funeral would have told you all the options. It is very upsetting for things like this to happen. Hope things will go better for you in the future, kate.

[brenda]

sorry --rothesay.

[slinky.kate]

i was trying to keep it as cheap as possible cause i had to come up with the money for it myself,i did not know i could get any help,but i am working on that now.so it was probably because it was a 'no frills'.it was a bit of a shock though,next week will be nice i am going to let some balloons off and throw flowers in the water.

[starone]

That will be really nice kate. It is very expensive, I know. but you have done your best and that is all you can do.

[DaisyNonna]

Kate, love the idea of flowers in the water. Bringing beauty to a sad time.

[micmak]

So sorry Kate. You did your best I'm sure your brother would be proud of you.♥

[honky-tonk]

That is shocking!! they should of been sent in a sealed plastic urn at no extra cost. My sympathys for you slinky.kate at a very sad time. Not long been through a bereavment myself.

[ttfn]

Hello kate, I am so relieved you have them now, a sense of coming home. Just try and not think of what has caused you stress these last few day and look forward to the scattering. It can bring enormous relief as I have found out ♥