Sacrificing your happiness for the sake of your children...

[whitbybabe]

Anybody else in the same boat as me ? We have always wanted to move to Whitby, the reasons are numerous so wont go on about it..But, we should have done it when our son was five or six, because now he is 17 (18 in September) he has his objections, i.e freinds, family etc. We have just had details on a hotel up for let (six letting rooms,restaurant, bar etc )and want to go for it. We are in the pub trade anyway so know all the pros and cons. Its not that far away from family at about two and a half hours from where we live. Son he doing his A-levels at the moment so we know we cannot really take him out of college but we even spoke about moving in a years time but he is not having it one bit. Thing is we will never leave him here just so we can be happy, but a little part of me feels a wee bit robbed if thats the right word ? I suppose the time will come when son leaves home and does his own thing, but do we have to wait til we are old before we get what we want out of life?

[whitbybabe]

By the way although I am ' whitbybabe ' I do not live there, I just really, really want to. x

[samak]

For God's sake, just go and be happy. When he's old enough to leave home he can then choose where he wants to live. Until then he should fit in with your wishes.

[brenda]

Understand your problem , but your son is almost an adult and being to my mind extremely selfish.could you not find him somewhere to live with family or friends until he finishes college , and you make your move.
You say that he is not having it , in say a years time --- well in my book he doesn't have any say in the matter.
you should not wait until you are old for happiness , you n eed to seize every moment.
At his age he either fits in and is happy for you , or needs to plough his own furrow elsewhere
In a couple of years time he may be living anywhere in the world , and where are you --- left looking at what might have been.All the best

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[maclarencat]

If he is doing his A levels I wouldnt move him until they are finished as it could seriously effect his results. After that I guess he will more than likely be going to Uni so it leaves you free to live where you want. If he doesnt go to Uni and is working then he is old enough to live alone if he wants to stay and if not he will have to go with you like it or not. Why is his happiness more important than yours?

[bednobs]

When he finishes his a levels (a year's time?) you will be able to look agian, and you'll only be a year older than you are now

[lylabellablueyes]

Agree with bednobs. Whats another year if you've already waited so long :-)

Goodluck x

[Brinjal]

Exactly 17 not too long left at home then he moves on and you are left with regrets. He cant dictate your life the same as you cant dictate his in a year or so. Make the decision and go.