grandparent and your grandchilds siblings...

[joko]

just curious on this

if youre a grandparent and your grandchilds parents split and remarry... or have kids already, would you treat the childs new step sisters and brothers like family too? would you take them out on days out etc

i think if they are little at similar ages and i went round to take mine out for tea, i'd perhaps treat the other little one too?... or at xmas i would potentially give the other gifts something too... especially if i spent a lot of time at their house in their company.

how about you...whats the 'expected' thing...or is it each to their own?

i only ask because my boyfriends little brothers grandparents acted like he didnt exist... when he was a child!

i know theres politics etc but when you show up at a house with a gift for one child and pamper them, and then just ignore the other, they dont understand that...just seems odd to me... but then i suppose you cant be expected to just suddenly love them all, especially if they are older...

i dont really know...i have no kids... but just set my mind wondering... must be an awkward situation really...

i know of a grandad whose son died and he treats the other kids of his sons girlfriend like they are his own grandkids.

what are your thoughts?

thanks

[boxtops]

I know of people in this situation, they treat all the children like grandchildren, the little ones have four nannas and grandpas.

[sherrardk]

My step-grandparents didn't treat us the same as their 'real' grandchildren but there was an eleven year gap so maybe that had something to do with it. I also didn't treat my step-grandparents the same way as I treated my 'real' grandparents (although I call my step dad 'dad' and he gave me away at our wedding - my 'real' father was not invited to the wedding).

[granny grump]

We 'gained' 3 step beautiful great grandchildren last year when my grandson met and moved in with a lovely girl who had 3 children, They have just had a little baby but there is no way that I could go and only take something for one or spoil only one - just think how the others would feel. They are still trying to think what to call me & grandad g

[tamborine]

I have a step son who is as much part of my family as are my blood g'kids. He is equally included in family activities and I see more of him as he lives nearer.

[Mamyalynne]

Treat them exactly the same, children are not responsible for the changes in adult relationships.

[beso]

Every opportunity to encompass children into one's "family" is a wonderful thing.

My daughter is my wife's child from a previous marriage. She considers me as one of her "fathers". I have a Father's Day card that explicitly proclaims this fact.

Her daughter is very much one of my grandaughters and I could never see her any other way.

My mother considers her as one of her great grand children.