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Yes, plenty of calming needed when dealing with a hyper kid with ants in his pants. I'm all for keeping the calm in the hour run up to bedtime even if i look at him wrong that can just ruin our bedtime routine so I'm all for keeping things calm and easy.
When I tried doing stories together it was a disaster. I tried it out as my son used to escape out his bed for hours on end he wouldn't sit on the couch so I could get the oldest to bed and he wouldn't play in his room. Reading my eldest stories was a nighmare because I'd just get sat down and he would appear and tear through her room so this stopped me being able to read together. If I did manage to get them sat down they'd both last about 30 seconds and madness would kick in and they'd get passed the sleepy stage and bedtime used to become a big drama
Yeah, I dont like reading on the couch because its not the best way for my kids and you can see when the MIL is in how she wants to start winding down on the couch and its just not part of their routine