I'm Dangerously Stressed And Frustrated

[Quoi]

I am stressed and I know i am extremely stressed - enough to consider going to the doctor but he will only tell me to remove myself from the stressful situation but i can't / dont want to.

I explode at a seconds notice at inanimate objects - an example might be getting my coat caught on a door handle - I will rip my coat to shreds in temper rather than calmly extract it from the door. The temper a small issue like that creates is scary. 10 seconds later - it's over and back to 'normal'.
I only usually do this when i am on my own never(very rarely) with people around.
This will happen maybe 3-5 times a day when I feel that something happens that doesnt need to happen ( ie coat in a door handle).
I used to be in control and now dont feel I am - I just feel like its getting worse.
Bit of a long question but any suggestions / web sites etc?

[anneasquith]

back to gp im afraid. and repeat your symptoms.

[tonyav]

I really think that you ought to see the doc Quoi, maybe the doc could refer you to some sort of specialist.

[ummmm]

Deep breath and count to 10.

[LazyGun]

"the doctor but he will only tell me to remove myself from the stressful situation but i can't / dont want to"

And you know this how?

There are plenty of websites and self- helop books that can give you tips on how to manage your own response to stress, but it comes down to this - if you recognise the issue in yourself, but rule out a proper examination of why such issues cause your stress, or rule out a possible solution before even seeing someone - what possible help do you think you will get from here? Sound like you are in denial before anyone even starts to offer suggestinns to me....

[Quoi]

ok - thanks for your answers so far.

I dont want to go to the doctor particularly - being direct its because its a form of defeat - dont ask me to explain that - its how it is.

This post is just a step for me because I have become more and more aware of how many times i lose my temper for small things.

If the doctor is inevitable then I will take that step - I just have a reluctance.

[Goodsoulette]

The doctor may advise you go to counselling. Is there something you can do to help you suck it up, my 7 year old has a hideous temper, he counts to 10 and by 10 he is calmer. However, with me I would get angrier by the time I had reached 10. I need to go and clean the kitchen to calm down.

[tonyav]

Quoi, bite the bullet and go and talk to your doc.

[naomi24]

//he [the doctor] will only tell me to remove myself from the stressful situation //

Why do you think he'll say that? I think it would be most unlikely. Make an appointment - and go!

[LazyGun]

@Quoi "I dont want to go to the doctor particularly - being direct its because its a form of defeat - dont ask me to explain that - its how it is."

I can to some extent understand your point of view - but again, being blunt, you are being defeated by your own reactions to stress at the moment, from your own words. Your wish to avoid defeat speaks to pride - not a good emotion with which to determine how you help yourself out.

A wise general knows when to take stock and marshall their forces and allies, regroup and fight the battle.

[Hopkirk]

Perhaps you need a relaxing holiday.

Isthat an option?

[Quoi]

Again, thanks for your answers

2 things - yes I have a reluctance to go to the doctors but please accept that with your answers - I will go as a last resort though - please accept that.

The count to 10 bit - I am raging before i get chance to think - its is aan instant response to a minor situation.

You might be able to imagine what I am like as a driver - I confess I get apoplectic with rage but I am not going to get out and hit anyone.

[sara3]

if it's escalating, you're not managing it alone. you could try relaxation techniques (meditation, etc) but I think you need professional help before something goes horribly wrong.

[coccinelle]

Two things can help with stress and that is sleep and exercise. No need to go to the gym just go for a quick walk around the block for 20 or 30 minutes.

[LazyGun]

"2 things - yes I have a reluctance to go to the doctors but please accept that with your answers - I will go as a last resort though - please accept that."

Your decision. I have given you my advice for what its worth.

[Quoi]

Thanks Coccinelle - strangely it doesnt affect my sleep - this is what might be a bit odd.
I do exercise a lot with digging allotments ( a lot more than i should really) so that is my therapy at the minute.

Its the flash temper i need some mechanism for.
As I am writing this I can feel that the next event - I will be able to stop and laugh and calmly remove the coat from the handle - but will I when it happens?

[Quoi]

Thanks LazyGun and the others who suggested the Doc - I appreciate it and I wont ignore it - I just wanted a possible alternative maybe before the doc has to be my only option.

[tonyav]

Quoi, try hanging it on a coat hook instead of a door handle.

[Hopkirk]

Perhaps you really do need to sort out the 'stressful situation' before it has more damaging health effects on you.

[Bbbananas]

The right doctor will be understanding, not dismissive.
Ask around fellow patients or even a receptionist as to who might be the 'right' doctor to consult.