Oh Me Or My You Make Me Sigh!!!

[Connemmara]

what do I do to do it right.

Just off the phone after about 1 hour with 45 years friendship with a friend.

This friend's son is married to his wife for 20 years.

But there is a massive split in the camp - has been going on for 7 years.

I have got friendly with the other camp family throu the CU and my friend - I think -is inadvertently is angry. I don't have any other communication only CU for about 1 and half hours which we work through

What the funk can I do. She is broken hearted her son and grandchildren have not been seen her for (perhaps since 2 Xmases ago) while - she definitely reared these grandchildren big time until they were about 10 - they are now 16 and 12.

Son and daughter-in-law remain estranged from her (my friend)- and because I know estranged family - "not blaming me" but I do get bits and pieces of CU of which I do not try to tell her - ie estranged going on holiday, estranged bought a uniform. (I don't tell her - she asks me)

God I am weary - I do have so very serious problems of my own. So she ended the conversation after several MONTHS - WILL RING YOU THROU THE WEEK. I am leaving it at that - after 45 years.

[pixie373]

Oh dear, conne. She maybe thinks you're more involved than you are. She should know you better than that. Give her a bit of time. She'll probably come round when she's thought about it properly.

[Connemmara]

Pixie - she very much knows I am not as involved. But I do think perhaps me knowing re knowing uniforms holidays etc - hurts her. But she does ask.

She has become isolated (married) one husband - no children at home one dog.


My sister has lost her son for good - my friend has a chance with him. Unless you know the full story - you couldn't write a book. I will lay my head down. Thanks Pixie. XXX

[pixie373]

Good luck. And goodnight, conne xx

[Butterbun]

Very sad. Hope you can work through this. Such a long friendship is valuable.

[Connemmara]

Our friendship will be okay (I hope) we have gone through so much - however, daughter-in-law etc is constantly on her mind.

She blames daughter-in-law for estrangement and thinks this is the way daugter etc wants it - I myself do not see an end in sight cos I love son (but he is a bit of a wimp big-time) definitely will do what the wife says not the mother and I am afraid friend's husband is no good either (a bit wimpish too) and afraid of confrontation. Will make arrangements for her and I to go out for a drink and meal within the next 2 weeks but the whole conversation stems around those two.