Hypothetical Question

[2sp_]

If you were estranged from a family member and they then fell on hard times or suffered a serious illness or injury, would you forgive and forget and help them out?

[berniecuddles]

nope!

[black_cat51]

probably but of course, as always it would depend on the circumstances. If they needed a something from me that would save their life, probably. If they appealed to me for money; probably not

[Peter Pedant]

yes

[scorpiojo]

No!

[Zacs-Master]

Depends what the circumstances of the estrangement was.

[Baldric]

No.

[Mamyalynne]

It would largely depend on the reason for the estrangement, so no simple answer for me.

[mikey4444]

I would like to think I would but it would depend on who the relative was and why we were estranged I suppose. Charity begins at home, so the answer would be yes ( I hope )

[2sp_]

This is not a situation I'm actually in, just wondered what everyone else would do.

I think like you black_cat, if someone needed bone marrow or something I probably would help out. As long as I didn't have to actually contact them myself. As for money or a place to live, not a chance.

[Peter Pedant]

yes - few noes here - good opportunity to mend fences...

it is possible and worth a try notwithstanding- that they will not be able to forgive you for helping - that is a risk you should take....
[ I have seen it - the unforgiver looks a complete fool....]

[Sqad]

Nope.

Well. It would depend upon the circumstances

[mccfluff]

i wouldn't forgive or forget but i'd probably help if i was in a position to and no-one else could.

[NoMercy]

I've never been one to hold a grudge - grudges are for bitter, twisted, gnarled people who will ultimately end up lonely.

[ummmm]

I wouldn't forget but I'd like to think I'd help them out.

[2sp_]

I do have an estranged brother, he has cut himself out of the entire family and is a quite unpleasant person (not just my opinion, promise!).

As far as I know he isn't in any need of help from me, but I've been pondering what I would do if he landed on my doorstep asking for help.

[Zacs-Master]

You must be as bored as Gness

[andy-hughes]

I have two sisters from who I am estranged - would not rush to help either of them, as they wouldn't with me I am sure.

[2sp_]

I am indeed, Zacs!

Is it that obvious?

[sherrardk]

Nope.

[cupid04]

I agree doesn't do you any good to hold on to grudges. Doesn't solve anything in the long run. I try to be a peacemaker but it can sometimes get thrown back in your face, but at least you've tried and you should have nothing to feel guilty about.