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Our 14 year old daughter hates living here, away from her old life she had down south as we moved away almost 2 ys ago. She is depressed and self harming. Lots of people have said I should stay so the children can see thier dad and have a relationship with him, But our daughter says she wants to move and that her dad is being selfish making us stay and she hates him, doesnt want to see him anymore.
I believe children need both parents and to move away to me is selfish on my part for wanting to be happy, by taking the kids away from him.
As he cant have the kids at hhis mums house where he lives now I allow him to come here and see them, i go out, or stay out of the way.
You get one life, I feel im sacrificing my happiness, but isnt that what a parent does? Sacrifice what i want and need, so the kids can see their dad?
Though i think that he would get more quality tme with them if we moved and he had them in holidays and every other weekend. rather than now, 2 hours 2 afternoons a week and one day at the weekend. thats what... 14 hours a week. weekends hed have them from say 7pm friday till about 5pm sunday, every other weekend. waking hours would be say about 26 hours over the weekend, so not much difference really. sorry im rambling.