Was I Out Of Order?

[MyLove]

Ok so i have a sister who is constantly badgering me to do/sort stuff out for her. Recently her phone got cut off so her only communication has been via facebook. Whilst I was on a break at work she sent me a message that said "please contact my childminder, she hasnt given me £50 deposit and she is ignoring my messages" Me in a hurry just copy and pasted this message and sent it to the childminder ( I have her number on my phone) didnt think anything of it and hoped childminder would just pay up and that would be the end. The following day I recieve a message from sister "why the hell did you copy and paste my message to the childminder? This was a confidential message and now you have made me look bad, do you have something against me????"

Seriously folks, have I done something that bad?

[DTCwordfan]

Just send her a message with some flowers perhaps.

"Sorry, I goofed up in just cutting and pasting your message on to x and I didn't check it as I should have done and the reason was that I was really busy at work. I should have done, nothing intentional and I hold my hands up.

Love y."

[MyLove]

DTCwordfan, I would do that but I'm reluctant to apologies for something that I dont actually feel is bad, I am so annoyed with her for even thinking I would do it maliciously, even if she sent that same message herself it wouldnt make her look bad, the childminder does ower her £50 and she was ingnoring my sisters messages, I really don't get why she is so bothered. Would you be bothered?

[mazie]

I wouldn't dream of asking my Sister to sort my stuff out for me...And visa versa, we are both grown ups and able to do these things for ourselves.... However, I don't really think it's worth falling out with your sister over this.

[MyLove]

Mazie, I havent/wouldnt either, Im very self sufficient.

My sister isnt speaking to me, I havent fallen out with her and my mum will certainly agree with you, I do over analize

[DTCwordfan]

It's not worth a fall out - so just take it on the chin and move on.....If you feel like adding, "I'm a little hurt that you say that you won't speak to me over such a relatively small incident" then do so.

[MyLove]

yes your'e right, still can't believe my sister is "fuming" about this though, I really don't see the big deal

[mazie]

DTC if right, it really isn't worth falling out over Love. Hope you make up soon x

[FrogNog]

If she's still fuming tell her you said you're sorry and if that's not good enough she can always message someone else to do her dirty work for her. Or she could always put some credit on her own phone.

[MyLove]

I think for me this is the final straw, this is the end of a long list of me trying to help and her being ungrateful. I shall be keeping my distance from now on!!

[dancecaller]

I think the formula here is 'I'm sorry you are upset'

[lcg]

sorry....but why o you care so much?either you are fed up with doing her bidding and her demands and need some peace and quiet in your life or you don't. the choice is easy: speak to her (grovel/apologise etc.) and put up with her ***; or don't speak to her again and have a nice rest. she may be your sister, but that doesn't mean you have to like her, put up with her behaviour or even have anything to do with her if yu don't want to. sounds like a plot out of a soap opera, and i know that i certainly don't have the time or energy to put up with that kind of c r a p off my family members and only speak to four of them. my life is now peaceful and more about me and what is important for my own health and well being. you do not have to put up with the way anybody treats you (wouold you take that stuff off anybody else?.....no - you wouldn't) and feel free to tell them to b u g g e r off. it is actually very easy to do!

[Jenarry]

I can understand where your coming from Mylove. I had a best friend who could make life very difficult and was always very demanding and could easily get upset over nothing and expect you to agree with her and apologise.
We had been friends for many years but this year I had the last straw and called it a day on the friendship. It's sad but I feel I had to do it and feel quite comfortable with my decision and I'm not missing the drama.
This may be the answer for you too but it may be a little different for you as it's your sister. Are you really at the end of your tether or could you talk to her and tell her your point of view?....

[lcg]

you are the one who 'lets' people treat you a certain way......and you are the one that allows it. the answer is very simple. don't.