Money As A Wedding Gift?

[thesecondlaw]

Next month, I am going to my nephew's wedding. He's a lovely bloke (as is all my sisters family), but I find it a bit much that he is asking for cash as a wedding day gift. His two brothers also wanted money. It seems kids today have everything they want before they walk down the aisle. My wife and I had a little notebook with ideas of things we needed for our new house, wouldn't dream of asking for money to blow on a holiday, the like of which we could never have afforded. So, is this now the norm?

[Cloverjo]

We gave my partner's niece a substantial gift of money a few years ago. We haven't had a thank you. I hate being invited to weddings. The last one I went to was that of a friend and she was embarrassed to give me the wedding list, as she knew I was skint at the time. She didn't expect anything from me, but I did get something, of course.
It would have felt strange giving her money as she was much better off than me.

[jennyjoan]

off the topic of weddings - what would you think of a box that was laid out at a funeral I was at about 3 years ago and a box was placed beside the corpse with Action Cancer on it - one of the daughters had suggested this suggesting visitors place something in it - I thought this was awful - I had a cringe feeling about it. Would it have been ok to you.

[ummmm]

My uncle asked for no flowers but a donation to the air ambulance instead. Of course us, as the closest members, bought flowers.....but everyone else donated...or not.

[woofgang]

I think that's pretty horrible but each to their own and if the deceased would have been pleased and it comforted the family then I guess that's all that really matters.

[jennyjoan]

don't think deceased would have been pleased as his living wife wasn't pleased but had no control (just one of those things)

[gness]

I'm fine with that, Conne......there was a plate at the back of the church at my brother in law's funeral last month.
£800 was donated for Parkinson's.....much better than flowers...x

[wolf63]

I am not having a funeral. I detest going to them and do not wish to inflict that on others.

Cash as a wedding present is a good idea apart from the face that the people know how much you have spent. But if the happy couple are not bothered about that why should we, the present giver, be. The actual amount is irrelevant - its the love that you give to them that matters.

[jennyjoan]

yes Gness - the plate in the church I think would be ok - but not in the home of the deceased - on the fireplace. And I also agree with you very much with flowers - a couple - that's it - an old granny of my friend used to say

never buy me flowers - cos you can't eat them nor drink them - so true - and they die just like the corpse.

[ummmm]

This is about a wedding.

[jennyjoan]

Sorry Ummmm - for digressing.

[Prudie]

Wolf admirable sentiments but I'm pretty sure many couples, after the event, would make a comment such as stuff the love so-and-so only gave us £xx and that wouldn't be a new thing, it's always been so.

[tamborine]

Its galling to spend £££s on your wedding outfit to only gift an iron. Many couples live together b4 the wedding & have their necessities. I made my wedding outfit & gave nephew £200 towards their 'honeymoon' holiday.

[TWR]

We were living together for 5 years so was already set up, when we did get wed do you know what we got for our honeymoon? F.All & did not expect anything.

[jennyjoan]

My aunt when she got married about 60 or more years ago - got 40 pairs of pillowslips. I do think money is best thing to give now - saves you a%sing about looking. I personally love giving the money and it does not offend me one bit.

[Peter Pedant]

My family has always given money

I saw my father doing it in the fifties and I do it now

[jd_1984]

I lived with my now wife for two years before we wed, this surely is very common these days.
We had everything we needed for our home.
We had the dilemma of "what to ask for". We didn't want peoples charity, and yet, the wedding ceremony cost us approx. £5k.
My wife wrote a lovely poem in the invites which very tactfully mentioned that if people wanted to give us a gift, money was great, however their attendance was all we really needed. (It was put a hell of a lot better than that).
We invited 160 to the evening reception and received £700 cash and £450 worth of gift vouchers.