How Do I Really Really Deal With My Sister In Law I Cannot Stand Her

[shyshy]

My husband and I have only been married going on 2 years August 1st this year I have a 23 year old special needs daughter he is disabled.

She is the oldest and very controlling etc she still wont s to control my husband s money we do struggle and should n t as much money as my husband gets we need to move for more space someone said used my daughters income I have been accused of overdrawn his account no I did not do that.

Myhusband was babied and sheltered a little to much by mom she passed June 2014 when the account got overdrawn she comes takes the checkbook back my husband pays just a few bills I pay the rest he does not have enough money for cigarettes need money for my niece she can give him a shave and keep his hair cut.

She talked once we all went out not her she smelled his arms make sure he has clean clothes on boy I was on fire when my sister told me got to crying to me she has not told me God knows what I wont to know did his mom have a will.

He has 3 other sisters with her and 2 other brothers all live in Maryland I am tired of her and sometimes feel like giving up on my marriage which I know he wont be no good she is Jehovah Witness.

We got married fast which I now say she pressured us some day I hang on in here wont to do over she was nerving as crap like someone told me she did not wont to take care of him but wanted the money true.

I know she is a bully and she is intimidating which holds me back of doing what I have been told to do get legal advice go to social security sign up to be his payee representative I get where the hell with it I am going then be worried about if she should find out.

If I could afford to pay someone to watch her I would sometimes I think maybe she may of done things illegally she has to go.

[Jackdaw33]

Me too. Sounds like a scenario from the Beverley Hillbillies.

[scorpiojo]

If you are married, why is she controlling your money?

[scorpiojo]

Try the US based website that Buenchico gave you on your previous question:

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Insurance/Question1499077.html

[Jackdaw33]

Don't ask, Scorp. I pride myself on being quite a good linguist but the syntax here is totally beyond me.

[scorpiojo]

;o)

[Jackdaw33]

/I have a 23 year old special needs daughter he is disabled. \

That's where I lost the plot.

[Old_Geezer]

Difficult to read when the apostrophes haven't come out.

e.g. "...and should n t as much money as my husband gets..." is difficult to understand.

You SIL wants to be in control of the money your husband gets ? The post seems to be suggesting she is in control. How does that work ?

Someone unidentified falsely claimed you used your daughter's money.

Your MIL passed away and afterwards came and took your chequebook ? Oh do you mean the SIL took the chequebook ? Who let her and why ?

You are obviously unhappy. I can't tell whether you feel you are fed up with being in the marriage and your life in general; or whether you are just having problems telling your SIL to stand back as he is your responsibility now not hers.

(Be aware only a few USA citizens pop in here regularly, and so it's possible many here won't be able to advise properly on the US social service or legal systems.)

I think the advice to go talk to both social service and someone who can give legal advice is decent. Have you tried that yet ?

[Old_Geezer]

There should have been punctuation between "daughter" and "he is".

[Jackdaw33]

I'm getting the drift, though it's been hard work after numerous large gins.

This lady is married to a disabled person. She also has a disabled daughter from a previous relationship. Her husband's sister had control of his finances until the death of his mother and still wishes to retain control. That's as far as I can get so far.

[Jackdaw33]

Sorry, 'after' the death of his mother.

[cassa333]

Why hasn't shyshy got control of his finances?

Was his mother, and now his sister, the people with legal control over him? (Sorry can't,remember the term)

If he has such a lack of mental capacity then he would have needed permission to marry and shyshy would have known about the control of his finances etc.

[Samuraisan]

I can't understand most of what you hVe written, but obviously you are very upset. You must find someone you can trust to talk to, maybe a member of your own family ? Believe me these in laws will not change, maybe a solution would be to move away.

[waterboatman]

Spelling, punctuation and syntax a right mess. Difficult to work it out.

[NoMercy]

I just read this. That's 2 minutes of my life I'll never get back.