A Question For Those Who Have A Son Or Daughter In Law.

[ladybirder]

When it comes to Birthdays, do you give each of them a present of equal value, or do you favour your own child?
Or perhaps you always buy something both can enjoy like a day out or a trip to the theatre?
I have a friend who always gives presents of equal worth but through gritted teeth which tickles me no end.
How about you?

[Vagus]

Equal worth or same money to all of them, wouldn’t ever consider doing it differently.

[Samuraisan]

Equal value to all of them. Also I make them all a birthday cake.

[Ken4155]

I have 3 daughters and a son. All are in relationships and i give their partners half of what i give my children on birthdays. However, at Christmas, i put £100 in a card addressed to them both.

[Ken4155]

I'll amend my earlier post to say, the partners of my 3 daughters all get money in their birthday cards. My daughter in law usually gets flowers or chocs, which i know she greatly appreciates.

[ladybirder]

Good for you Vagus. That's a very nice thing do Sam, I wish someone did that for me.
You give half what you give to your own then Ken? Do your daughters ever comment on that, if you don't mind me asking?

[Bobbisox1]

I buy them both as individuals LB

[calmck]

My daughter gets more than her partner and I always, with their input, by presents for her kids to give. He also has 2 kids but does not arrange presents for them to give though we do for our kids to give him. Different family values. The kids, by choice will not let me or their mum buy presents for their dad. They say he never says thank you so it's up to his live in partner to do that. Out of the mouths of babes.

[Sqad]

Never bought them anything for their birthdays or their wives since they left home.

[anneasquith]

I bet Mrs S did .

[ladybirder]

LOL at Sqad. Not a surprise:-)

[pat2604]

Equal value. But that's not the most important. I put the same amount of thought into their presents, so the value to them will be the same. I give joint presents at Christmas usually but very personal presents for birthdays.

[mallyh]

sqad do you get presents from them ?

[Ken4155]

None of my children have ever commented on what i give to their partners as birthday presents. Why should they? My son's partner was actually very surprised to receive anything at all from me when i first gave her flowers for her birthday. My youngest daughter's ex-husband already had a son from a previous relationship and i spent as much on him at Christmas and birthdays as i did all my grandchildren.

[Sqad]

mallya...........never....or wanted any.

[Buenchico]

There's a guy who I think of as my son (even though he's not biologically). I've actually got to post his 46th birthday present today.

I'm always quite generous with the presents I send to him and to his two children (whom I think of as my grandchildren) but I don't even know when his wife's birthday is.

At Christmas I send some presents for each of the children, some for my 'son' and a few joint ones for him and his wife but I don't send any presents specifically to his wife alone.

[Redhelen72]

My MIL sends me a card and the occasional second hand gift.
My Stepmum always sends my husband a gift equal to what she spends on me.

[Prudie]

I always spend way more on my daughter than I do her partner (although they are not married). I've never thought of doing it any other way.

[andres]

My four daughters in law are all very different and I try to choose something that I know will suit each one. Nothing too expensive and definitely not the same amount spent on each present. It's the thought that counts and so far they all seem happy with whatever I have given them.