Living Alone

[MissTerious2]

Listening to the radio today so many mentions about living alone and being lonely.

Just thinking Living alone and being lonely are not necessarily linked

You can be very lonely even if surrounded my other people or totally content living alone.

Not a question, I know. Just a shared thought.

[wolf63]

I agree fully with what you say.

I live on my own and have done so for most of my adult life. It suits me and I can't ever remember feeling lonely. I have good friends and I have a close relationship with my brother.

I am happy being me

[lankeela]

Turned off phone this morning, not answering posts on fb and enjoying being alone (apart from dogs) and just called in here to see if the religious nut jobs are on their high horses (not disappointed).

[Buenchico]

>>> You can be very lonely even if surrounded my other people

I hardly ever feel lonely but, if I do, it's most likely to be when I'm in a crowded pub where everyone else is in a group and I'm on my own with nobody to talk to.

I think that people who were raised as the only child in the family, like me, are often more resilient than others when it comes to living alone. The lifestyle generally suits me well.

[rowanwitch]

I am lucky, I am good On my own. I have so many hobbies and find people exhausting. Very few people are comfortable with my eccentricities so with those outside my circle I have to act a part to fit in. I value the small circle who accept me for who I am but even with them I can only share their company for a limited time.

[Buenchico]

>>> just called in here to see if the religious nut jobs are on their high horses

Yes, Lankeela. Christmas gets spoilt by people trying to bring religion into it, doesn't it?
;-)

[MissTerious2]

It's just that on the radio shows they all seem to be feeling sorry for people that are alone at Christmas and being very condescending/patronising.

[rowanwitch]

Much better when the pagans ran the show, very little worship and a lot more drinking and feasting.

[rowanwitch]

Remember the 'idea of Christmas' is the festival of consumerism wrapped up in a thin blanket of sentiment'. There are vested interests involved at every level. It's marketing ploy, push the jolly family and present give good times at all costs...and you are somehow lacking if you don't call for it.

[MissTerious2]

I'm an only child too Chris and so is my son. We are both resourceful and very independent. My biggest fear at the moment would be ending up in a care home and living with others around. I like people, but don't need people around me all the time. I love MrT, but part of the attraction was and still is that he's much the the same.

[Lie-in King]

I agree with your "thought", MissTerious. I have the radio on as - for me - it's nice to have the feeling of someone else in the room.

I've lived alone for a long time now, have no family at all left & very few people I can call real friends, though some good acquaintances bump that number up slightly. Thankfully I can live with myself & should I need to, I know that I can always pop on here & find some friendly folk to chat with :-)

For most of this year, it's been the loneliest I've been for a very long time, but will make the best of the Season. The turkey joint's in the oven & when everything's ready I'll find something on the TV to take me away from the real world for a while.

[rowanwitch]

It gets easier LIK, just accept the days that make you sad as the shadow that makes the good memories so much brighter. It's still early days even if it seems everyone else has moved on.

[Lie-in King]

((Rowan)) X

[MissTerious2]

I can understand how you must be feeling after your very sad year LIK. We have had a couple of really awful years for various reasons and now Sepsis has been the last straw. You must miss Mamya so much xxxx

[wolf63]

LiK

I miss Lynne too and I had never met her. Your pain is real, you knew the real lady and you made each other happy.

I hope that 2023 brings us all peace and hope for the future.

[Lie-in King]

MissT' - is the sepsis yours? Well, whoever it is, I can only send my best wishes for some relief & comfort & I'm sorry for the tough few years you've had x

I do miss Lynne profoundly, every minute. I thought losing my brother was hard but that's been knocked out of the ballpark, frankly.

Thank you for this thread, I might have tears in my eyes but I don't feel quite so alone :-)

[MissTerious2]

Yes mine LIĶ. Was at deaths door in intensive care early November. Its left me with PostSepsis Syndrome which is horrible physically and mentally and I'm told to expect it for between 6 to 18 months. It also wipes out your immune system. MrT is proving to be a great carer/cook and master of all trades!! I am spending half my life in bed asleep

[MissTerious2]

I was told I was lucky to survive at my age! So must be a tough cookie!!

[Lie-in King]

Oh good grief! I'd no idea & if you posted about it, I completely missed it. I've a bad habit of not looking in B & S as there's rarely anything I can say. I really do wish you a speedy & comfortable recovery x

[MissTerious2]

I hid it up in another thread Lik. I didn't want to advertise it.

[MissTerious2]

And many thanks to you LIK. Its nice to chat to a genuinely lovely ÀBer , but there's still an element of sniping under cover on here that I just want to avoid. Xxx