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i'm wondering if i can have some help with this. My girlfriend and me want to move in with each other because we love each other more than anything in the world, but she's got 5 kids already and i want one of my own with her. Would her or me get in trouble for doing sexual thing's.
i really need help with this because i'm getting really stressed out for what is the right thing to do, it will even be harder because she lives in south devon and i live in north devon and that means she will be moving over 100 miles just to be with me.
i will be greatful for any help.. thanx.
Alistair xxx
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I think you are not entirely serious with this question Alistair.
At fifteen, you must still be under the supervision of a parent or guardian, who will not be impressed at the prospect of you entering an illegal 9you are under age) sexual relationship with a woman.
Why not read a good book instead of messing about on your computer?
Hi andy,
I am serious about this, why do you think i put this on here in the first place, well sorry but i'm too busy to read a book!
but you can, instead of telling people what to do.
i'm sorry again, it's just i dont like people telling me what to do, not even my family does that, because i got a nasty temper.
If you've got a nasty temper, you should stay well away from young children until you have matured enough to maintain control in these matters. That probably sounds worse than it was intended.
That may sound preachy, but children require stability and an even handed approach to discipline, not sudden outbursts of anger masquerading as discipline.
Despite your feelings for this woman and hers for you, sex with a fifteen year old is illegal in the UK and an imprisonable offence. Her children would suffer all the more if they went into care.
Surprisingly, you may need to act the adult in this situation and I hope you can, if only for the welfare of the children. Sorry, I'm not more encouraging.
I know you dont want people telling you what to do and your probably just on AB looking for some friendly advice.
to answer your question firstly, YES if you have a sexual relationship with your girlfriend, she probably would get into serious trouble and chances are social services could take her children into care and she would be placed on a sex offenders register.
The right thing to do, is give you time to experince a bit more of life, i know you say she means the world to you, but so did my boyfriend when i was 15, im now 23 and we grow up so quickly and we change through the years, give yourself a chance, you can still be her friend, but it will cause so much trouble especially for her.
when i was 18 i went with a man 16 years older than me who had a child, we split up when i was 21, the age difference eventually killed us, plus i turned 21 and wanted to start having fun like everyone else my age, not saving up for shoes for his kid or child care and things!
speaking from experience it may seem at the moment it will make you happy as it did me but then you start changing.
xx
Hello again Alistair
If I have mis-read your question as being a hoax, and it is genuine, then i hope you will accept my sincere apologies.
The gist of my reply is still valid however - you are legally too young for a sexual relationship, and I would suggest, as others have done, that this is too big a step too soon for someone of your age. I am not trying to suggest that your feelings are invalid, just that the strains caused by this situation may be more than you are aware.
I do speak from experience - my wife was married before, and had two children, and we were in our thirties when we got married, and it still was far from easy!
Take a little time, discuss this isue with your parents, and think long and hard before you proceed any further.
i have a bad temper, but i will never use it to harm little kids, i would never dream of it. And i'm a martial artist and i know when to use my temper and when not to use, but it would never get used in front of kids. And i'm used to being nice to little kids, because i help my Sensei play games with them.
Well thanks everyone for you're help, i think i will take the advice, because i would never want anything to happen to the lovely kids and my girlfriend. I just hope i go for the right thing in life, her and the kids that love me or someone who dont because she is the first person to love me like this. And if i do the wrong thing i've lost everything i've ever dreamed of.
Alistair xxx
Out of interest and sorry if you take this the wrong way ..She has 5 children, does she work? If she is she must be paying a fortune in nursery fees.
You're 15 so at the moment you'll probably only be able to find imployment in a low paid job and you want more kids so who is paying for all these children?
Also you say you won't get angry with the children, but andy hughes asked a perfectly valid question and you immediately flew off the handle. Playing with children when you can walk away is a lot different to actually being a parent to them.
How to her kids feel about a child (and you still are a child at 15) being their dad?