Trying to let go of the past.

[steve208]

I know I moan on here a lot and i am really sorry but i am grateful for all the help and advice that people here offer. Also I am moving forward....well turning around like a super tanker...bit like british rail...i will get there in the end.

Anyway at the moment I am having real problems letting go of feelings about the past. I dont think i did very well at university with social things and also before that at school. I have a lot of regret about my life going back a long way.

I cant silence the regret that i feel, and especially at night when i am trying to sleep my mind will not stop running all the bad things through my head.

[tradey]

you shouldnt live in the past its what happens now that is more important,try and put them behind you it will be fot the best or you will never be able to get on in life,i know been there good luck x

[Lore]

It's a difficult one steve, trying to move on and up when you have so many memories of the past and how, if things had have been different then maybe now you could be content.

I too try to escape my past and it's got a funny way of showing up when you need it to stay away the most.
On several occasions I've come close to losing what I have now for fear of what could go wrong instead of enjoying what I've got and living for the reality that is and not was.

It's something we've got to train, ok, life was crap for a long time and it's had such an impact on my life that my self confidence hits rock bottom frequently - but only in the eyes of those close to me - to others, I'm on top of the world.

You'll learn to deal with your past, I'm starting to feel a lot more secure in life and although there are still many things I'd like to change, I have to accept that the things I can change I can work towards -even if it takes the rest of my life and the things I can't change then I need to be open and talk about it.

[crete]

in the past close the door on it things cant be undone open a new door

[larkin]

I have been going through similar recently Steve - past has re emerged and I am trying to deal with some very unpleasant things. You have to want to deal with them and not bury your head. Seek help fom professionals if you can - I didn't and regret it hugely. I was always too cynical to believe they could work for me.
This is the here and now though and no longer the past. Look forward and not back. You can get to where you want to be if you are determined.

[~posy~]

hi steve!!!!

like has already has been said, it is the past and there is nothing you can do to change it so forget about it and move on!! i know it is hard but you have to!! i have a cr@p past lots of things i hate that i did, but there is nothing i can do about it, it is done now. if i kept thinking about it i would get really stressed out so i just don't think about it. you have to do the same and move on mate otherwise you'll get stuck and stay there!!

take care mate xXx

[steve208]

thanks i think i will write down the things that keep reoccuring and talk them over with my counsellor tommorow.

Posy - things are not going too bad at the mo this week. Though my brother is a pain but hey not had any major arguments.
The days are going quickly, ive had down periods but not whole down days which is better.
I have not done as much as i told myself i would but, i have kept going on things. Saying that i think i expected that i would get heaps done which cannot happen straight away!

[~posy~]

at least you're going!!! you're not just sat there doing nothing!! so well done you! i'm glad you've had a better week. keep going mate you'll get there in the end xXx

[larkin]

Good advice posy. You can do it steve - didn't think i would be where i am now a couple of months ago . stay positive and win !
best of luck