Is this fair

[Smudgexx]

1. Ex husband get away with ABH
2. Ex husband get away with physicall hurting his 5 month old baby
3.Emotionally, sexually and mentally abuse his step daughters.
4. Having over 100 indecent images of children on his computer
5 Given contact with his 3yr old son who he tried to kill.

Well that's justice for you the courts have granted him contact regardless of medical professionals advise etc
What would you do?

[oldgrape]

Well if it was me i'd kill the ******* you know he deserves it but you for doing the "right" thing would get life in prison! i personally would keep a very very close eye on ur son and report even the little things to the authority slight bruising son withdrawn after visits etc and most of all ask your little one how he gets on at the visits make sure you don't force him to say anything he doesn't want to

[B00]

No idea what i'd do- luckily for me this situation hasn't and hopefully never will come up.

Is the contact your ex has with your son supervised? If not, is there anyway you can request/demand this?

[Smudgexx]

Unfortunately it isn't supervised which was over ruled by the judge, when i asked for supervised. This judge hates women, stated by my barrister

[sarnieken]

Please tell me this is a hypothetical question and this w*nker doesn't really exist?

Personally, I would like to see it sorted Saudi Style and cut something off.
Was once witness in the prosecution against a guy who had kiddy pics on his pc AT WORK (r*tard). He was placed under police protection for his own good as his workmates all had kids and had made it clear they were going to make him a Eunoch.

[Pea Pod]

I would contact the news papers and get him exposed as the low life he is.

[Pippa68]

Yet so many decent fathers are denied contact every day..year after year.

It beggars belief.

[Mammar]

Have you thought about posting this in Law also?
There may be some ABers on there who might not read B & S but could help you resolve this awful problem.
In the meantime, Smudge, keep really alert and stay strong.
Thinking of you

[tigerlily11]

I'm thinking of u smudge.
My ex also got away with abusing my daughter.
Something about the police not doing their job right.
I don't know why.
My daughter has suffered and so have her brothers yet the A**hole walks the streets and is free to abuse again.
Because a court let him off he thought I would as well and when I didn't he came a raided my house and tried to scare the boys and take everything from the house and sll the police could say is its not our problem.
It just make me spit it realy does.

[FlowerPetal]

Smudge,
Report it to the police that he has treatened your son and you if you dont adhere to contact - that way the police have a duty of care towards you and your son.

Sadly, unless you have actual physical evidence of the above, he will get away with it. Mental isnt it, when you have to lie and wait for some kind of abuse to happen before somebody will believe you!! GOD it makes me soo mad!!

Personally, i'd have a mate of a mate of a mate do something worthwhile for me!

You could also be slightly underhand and tell your ex that your son is unwell on the contact days - cant be done every time but if your son suffers from asthma or any other condition that is excaerbated by stress and worry, that can be a reason as well. This may give you enough time to re-apply to the courts on the above grounds and hopefully get a different judge.

Could you not get an injuction against him??

good luck and thoughts and wishes go with you and your family

Flower xx

[Smudgexx]

I'd like to thank you all for you thoughts. I needed to know I'm not the only one to think the same as you all do. Unfortunately the judge refused an injunction, when I did have one everytime he broke it she left him off. Everything has been reported to police but they say they can do nothing, which i know is very hard to believe, shame we have to live in this sort of world, it's all gone mad. Pea pod I have many times thought about the papers, but again I have to think of the kids and protecting them, if their mates found out, it may damage them even more.

[Dusty Bin]

Diary everything...

and be accompanied by a friend when he comes to collect and return your child...always.

Sounds like your solicitor's given up on the judge concerned. Thought about changing your solicitor?

[Smudgexx]

Dusty Bin finding it very hard for another soloicitor to take this case on, plus it will be in the same court same judge that's my problem , she won't listen to witnesses just wants contact to carry on? Not many solicitors will take it on cos I'm on legal aid, but your right my solicitor has given up and the barrister are too frighten to take this judge on, she has a reputation of hating women.

[TillyNilly]

I feel for you smudgexx.....What a hell of a situation to be in...I think you need professional advise and a decent solicitor because he can't be allowed to see your son especially unsupervised...Have you tried NSPCA or Parentline..sometimes these organisations can give you very good advise and direct you in the right direction...I hope you find help and support and it all works out for you and your son...

[noxlumos]

Sweetheart move house, as far away as you can, don't give him a forwarding address, get a guaranteed next day delivery envelope from the post office, rip the one end so it looks as though it's been accidentally damaged and the contents have fallen out, keep the slip filled in with his name and address on it. The PO will deliver the damaged envelope to him ( water damage looks best) and you will have proof that you tried to inform him. If it comes to court again, it will be in a new area with a new judge, but he'll have to find you first. This is what one of the girls who works for me did.
If you make travelling to get there very very difficult for him, and then refuse access once he's there on the grounds that the child is ill, it'll cost him a fortune, inconvenience him and hopefully he'll give up.
Don't take this lying down, make it difficult for him.

[Le Chat]

Solicitors love legal aid Smudge. It means that they can accrue lots of time and money and they know that it will be guaranteed to be paid, rather than having to tailor their expenses to a fee paying client, who wants to cut short meetings, so cutting their bill. Don't know where you got that info from...believe me, thier eyes light up if they know you are have legal aid.

[Aprilis]

Smudge I was horrified to read this and your previous thread.

Maybe if you check this out it might be of some help to you. If nothing else they might be able to point you in the right direction.....

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/

They offer help, advice, counselling and referral to other organisations for women and children who are suffering/have suffered domestic violence.

I do so hope you find the support you need to protect yourself and your children from this lunatic.

[missrandom]

i'd take my child and run as far as i could. Id move abroad if i had too, seriously!! really get away and dont let him near your child. i cant believe these things can happen in this country. what is wrong with courts, its madness. good luck

[minibusman]

i agree with pea pod...name and shame tha b*****d.. i am sure that the papers would love a story like this and would protect yours and your childs identity... my heart goes out to you and i wish you all the luck in the future....