Embarrasment?

[Lez]

I`m 42 and my daughter is nearly 14.She says i`m an embarrass to her because i like the same music as her(actually,she likes the same as me)namely My Chemical Romance,Muse amongst others.She makes me feel like i should be listening to Mantovani.Does anybody else have similar problems?

[sleepy1]

i cant see that being a problem all kids get embarrassed with there parents . my 15 year old hate be doing anything . cant even wave when i drop him of at school .i listen to a lot of the chart music and buy lots of cds my kids end up taking my music . some of it any way i like r& b but listen to heart radio whic he founds odd . im only 35 so im still youngish

[curlyperm]

hey lez..........i could write a book dont worry i wont - not on here) i am an embaressment to my 14 year old too, in sooooo many ways, where she is happy for me to drop her at school, there are certain conditions that have to be adhered to, NO waving to her mates! NOT dropping her too near the gates, i MUST comb my hair before we leave, under NO circumstances must i get out of the vehicle (as i still insist on wearing my slippers) i am NOT allowed to listen to radio manchester OR radio 2 on the journey, and whilst listening to the cr*p on radion 1, i am NOT allowed to sing if i shoud (dare ) to know the words!!!
Naturally i try my hardest to annoy her whenever i get the chance, like suddenly diving in front of the web cam with a stupid grin on my face when i know some lad she likes is on the other end, or nipping on MSN when shes on the loo and asking her mates if they wanna 'come for tea one night' heheheheh THAT one gets her EVERY TIME!! ahhh revenge is sweet x

[Lez]

Nice one Curly.lol.

[sleepy1]

i have to listen to radio one but if i do have my own music on he turns the radio of before he gets out the car ..................i cant sing as well or he gets the right hump . he dont even like me drinking in case i get drunk and p him off . one day when i was waiting for my son to come out the school one mum was sitting in her car singing at the top of her voice , the kid just come out and got in the car she carried on singing . if that had been me my son would of killed me im sure .

[yummymum]

your evil curly....LOL, i have all this to come my lad is only 3 God help me!

[MYSTERYT]

Now Now curly perm be nice !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol
Actually lez your not the only one i like some of the music that my daughter likes,but i cant stand this bashment , and she loves to play it LOUD when in her bedroom ,but what these kids seem to forget is that some of the tracks they play nowdays was out when we were younger,like my daughter she loves the alot of the old reggae, and alot of the old r n b ,
And do you know something it's not that she think's your an embarresment to her cause you could walk down the street with her , she will walk 30 ft behind cause she dont want her friend's to see her walking with one of her parents , or god for bid a boy she likes sees her ,ive been there with my one you get use to it after a while .
True what curlyperm say's though dont wave to her friend's when taking to school ,but go on then just for the laugh i do and do wear your slippers but plz make sure there really bright and get out of the car and kiss her good bye in front of her friend's or make sure they see you doing it HEHEHEHEHE

[taichiperson]

I guess I'm lucky - my boys don't find me an embarrasment!! They don't like contemporary music and are really retro - they like a lot of the stuff my partner and I liked at a similar age. Thank goodness they didn't grow up wanting the latest fashion, and are happy to shop in charity shops or make their own tye dies!! They aren't carbon copies though, and do prefer to listen to their own CDs in the car. I do have a laugh and ask them if they're going out to 'hang with thier homies' - and drop them off at a discreet distance. Some of their friends are the sort who just grunt hello if you're lucky, but there are also the rare few who can actually hold a conversation.

[kags]

The replies have made me smile - my son is only 11 but has recently started to get VERY fussy about where I drop him at school - we have to drive past his mates and drop him round the corner. One morning I waved at his friend and I thought my son was going to pass out with shame! But then I remembered being 14, and my Mum falling over as we got onto a bus. I was completely mortified and just went straight upstairs and sat at the back with my arms folded, furious with my mother for showing me up. She eventually came upstairs with blood pouring out of a cut on her knee and I ignored her for the whole journey.
Lez - keep listening to the music you like, if you change to Mantovani you'll still be an embarrassment to your daughter anyway, but it's all part of the joys of parenthood.......

[banjosister]

Hey Lez,

I think that you will find that it is part of your job as her mother to embarrass her at every oportunity - how else are we supposed to get our own back for all the crap they put us through over the years lol!

I'm learning to play the banjo so constantly have banjo music on in the car/house oh how she moaned! I have to say though that I have caught her singing to it quite often!

I used to find with my son that if he was being a pain in the a$$ I would tell him that I would walk him to school and give him a kiss at the gate if he didn't do as I asked, it usually worked too coz he knew I meant it. He is now 22 with his own children and can see the method in my madness.

Good luck xx

[kill_the_pop]

Well I'm going to put a child perspective on this, when i say child I'm 22, my mother is 42.

I never felt like my mum embarrassed me, when I was 14 or now. Maybe I'm lucky, but I like the fact we like the same music, can go shopping together, and actually have proper conversations. I like the fact I have young parents, much easier to get on with in my view.

So maybe when your children say they're embarrassed by you, maybe they're scared you're cooler than them. (imagine)

Now my little sister on the other hand, is always embarrassed by me.....

[bigmamma]

I like a lot of the " modern " music as well as some classical and my son and I have a lot of the same music on our ipods , we have very similar tastes and it has never been a problem .

[mydogsandme]

It's a mother's job to embarass her children- my favourite used to be singing and dancing to the music being played in shops- grab their hands and make them join in!