well done isis, what an inspirational story.
the best things you can do for your children, boys or girls, is to love them, even though there will inevitably be times when you find it hard to like them and vice versa, and make sure they know you love them. giving a child boundaries is not only sensible but in the long run it is a loving thing to do.
give them roots so they can use their wings
by the way.....it seems to me that I worry more now about my children although 2 out of 3 have long since flown the nest!!