stepdaughter that won't stop.....HELP!!
I have a stepdaughter who is 8, I have a son with her dad who is 15 months old-the son, not the dad,lol.
The trouble is he sees her once a month as she lives with her mum the other end of the country, she is youngest of 3 and very babied, she will not however and never has left our son alone-don't get me wrong, when he was a baby she loved him and wanted to help and feed him, but thought of him as a doll (to be expected i guess) we told her and told her to not pull him around or try to pick him up but she insisted on trying to do so (mainly when her dad wasn't in the room) I have had words with her several times but she does not listen and i am loathe to alienate her as her dad is with our son all the time and i know she must be jealous...he started walking at 9 m and she has been nothing but nasty since she knows hes not a bairn, its easy to say dont leave her alone with him but i just have to look the other way and she has picked him up and dropped him or pushed him over (twice ive seen this and her dad has not disciplined her properly)
I feel for her but my son was born not breathing and had suspected brain damage, she came here and was here for 4 hrs-still she could not behave herself, picked him up in front of us and ran with him, then dropped him, straight on his face, he screamed and screamed and i cried as i was so upset that my son may have been hurt.
what can i do??!! I have said that i cannot have her in the house now as i am worried about our son, she has no idea of the consequenses that might happen f she drops him, i feel bad but at the end of the day why should i risk my sons life/wellbeing because she cannot simply behave for a matter of hrs. I know she must see her dad still, its not an option as i know a child needs their father coming from a broken home myself- it is hard as he is gone the whole w/e driving back and forward to pick her up and take her back-what happens when our son becomes resentful because of this??!!