I hate my sons girlfriend!!!

[puddicat]

She has come back to haunt me!!!

[oldgrape]

oh dear why you hate her and hows she haunting you?

[puddicat]

grape she has hurt him so much and now she is back in his life and controlling him yet again!!!

[puddicat]

I know he still loves her and she provides the sex part but she is so nasty and at the age of 23 she is milking it!!!

[bednobs]

is this the girl that had the abortion?
If it is, as i said before she probably knows you completely disapproved of her aborting "your grandchild" and will continue to find a relationship with you difficult.
And give your son some credit that he isn just after sex!

[Tups]

I've learnt from bitter experience you can't do anything about your children's boy/girl friends. I had to watch my daughter going through hell with one boyfriend. He ended up in prison for the way he treated her. She then had another dreadful one who is an alcoholic. I pleaded with her to finish with them because they were destroying her but she wouldn't listen. Instead, she became more determined to stay with them, just to spite me, I felt. She had to hit rock bottom -big time - before she came to her senses. It's very hard but you'll just have to be there for him when she lets him down again. If he lives at home with you, tell him you don't object to him seeing her but she isn't allowed in the house. There is absolutely no reason why you should have undesirables in your home.

[pinktwink]

leave them both alone to make their own lifes and choices it is not your place to choose your sons partner part of being a mother is allowing you children grow up tto make their own choices. As you don't live with them you don't see how they relate as a couple. The more you interfer the more you risk loosing your son. I appreciate it is not easy but the more time you spend fretiing over it the more annoyed you will get. It seems you are the one who is suffering.

[chicho,bird2]

i

agree pinky

too much water under bridge

now

as me and son dont speak at all

and only intervered wen his life was in jeapoedy

so now i stear clear

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as im the bad mum

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sorry to hear that puddi

xxx

[helena2207]

Hi Puddicat,

I feel for you and know what you are going through, my son brought home to me the worst girlfriend any mother would want for their son, Thanks god he is no longer with her, they had a nice little flat the girl destroyed everything. all i've told him about her came true, i've even let this girl stayed at my home, she stayed for 10 mths, i took no money from her, nor she paid any bills, food etc, she fibbed and tell vicious lies about my family, she wouldn't dare come back to my son and family, my son is with another girl, this new girl have some self respect. the ex girlfriend was so uneducated was very rude to other member of my family, never clean after her, by 8.30am she was ready to go out until all hours, she even got the cheek to ignore me in my own home. Pls keep an eye on your son, i know it's hard. There is no way on this earth any WOMAN will get away with HURTING my boys. i've suffered and sacrifice my life for them, in sickness and in health. My health already in a bad way, i don't need more grief from them.

I am close to my boys we have a close nit little environment, so i am lucky my boys listen to me, they knows whatever i say is for their benefits. please i am not saying your son is not close to you, but he will see one day how the girl is bad for him, the girl will probably walk away herself, that's what happened with my son's ex, she left on her own accord, she knew she couldn't fight me, my worst nightmare was if she ever get pregnant, but she knew she would have paid a hefty price if that ever happen, i've let this known to her, she could do what she want whilst my son and her don't have any kid, but get pregnant she'll pay the price needless to say so would be my son, anyway she surrender, she ran back to where she came from, beside my son was to quiet a man for her, she couldn't live his peaceful, reasonable life.


just hang in there.

regards

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[onlyme26]

ok you said she had an abortion at 15? ( please correct me if im wrong) and now she is 23??? they have been together for a long time then??

he must love her to have been with her so long?

do you resent her for the abortion?? i mean its not an easy thing to go through and leaves you mentally scarred!!
thought i dont know your situation so i cant really comment,
i hope things work out, tho if your son is happy maybe best just let him make his own mistakes, if she is one

xxx