Been through a similar thing, the man was never interested in the kids, when they were very little it was ararnged that he would come and take them out for the day on a saturday, the 1st week he turned up, all fine, the kids had a good time, the week after that, he didnt show, with no explanation...I was later told by a friend that he was in a pub with a woman!!! He then see fit to take this woman to his mothers with her 2 CHILDREN (his mother lived opposite me!) and parade them in front of all of our faces, you couldnt miss it. I didnt want to let him see them after that and he never bothered. Then he started turning up a few years later, begging for forgiveness and tellin me how genuine he was, this went on for months before I could allow myself to trust him again, I eventually let him see them, he took them out and bought them allsorts...it didnt last long, it was all a ploy to get back with me, as soon as he realised I didnt want him, he hasnt bothered since!!! My son is very hurt by him, my son is 10 now and wants nothing to do with him, which is a terrible thing for me to have to witness, but my son says he has everything he needs in me, which is a lovely thing to say, but it doesnt take away the hurt...as advised by everyone else, keep doing what your doing, being there etc and let the little un come to her own conclusion...some men eh, I could never do anything to hurt my children, and yet some of them can do it so easily without a thought for anyone else other than themselves!!!