Happiness

[WhiteBear]

there are times i think of other people, i should be fortunate that i'm still here and have things that i need such as roof over my head, have a job, etc.

i should be happy of what i got, but why am i not happy and feel just empty inside me?

i can be naive and gullible at times, family, friends, work colleagues takes advantage of me, take everything off me, make fun of me, take the pi55.

when i fight back, im a bad person. when i do something to please them, they are happy and nice to me. i really cant win.

when will i ever b happy?

[ronnie_07]

Your happiness should depend on what makes u feel good not making everyone else happy.
You should think about if you lost the everyday things and people in life - then how would u feel?
It sounds awful but this recession has made me realise whats important and what not...
List the things in life that make you happy - and focus on them. Dont allow people to treat you bad , stand up for yourself ! And eliminate people from your life who treat u that way !

[tamborine]

You will be happy when you learn to love yourself and accept your way is the right way. Let other's live their lives as they want but know you want to live your way.

That way you form your own destiny and contentment.

[angel21]

I've been feeling similar to you lately Whitebear.

It sounds like you are lacking in self esteem and confidence so this is what you need to start working on. Believe in yourself and your ability.

Little steps is the key to success and it might be a good idea to look for an evening class, whether it's to learn something new or to get fit.

It really doesn't matter what people around you think - they don't define you - remember who you really are away from work, family, friends and you will see you are a good person who tries their best.

[WhiteBear]

Thanks for the advice Ronnie, it is quite a depressing year where everyone seem to be loosing their jobs etc.

i dont really know what to put to my happy list- i just dont know what really makes me happy, , i can give you a long list of what makes me unhappy.

tamborine, i dont think i can learn to love myself, i just cant, i really dont like anything about me. now you prob say find ways to change it... but i cant. due to illness reasons, now you prob say... try and live with it and accept what i have and move on. i cant. ='(

angel, i have really low self esteem, and lack of confidence, always had been most of my life. when i try i always get knocked back down again. just really upsets me. no matter how hard i try, i just dont seem to get anywhere higher but i can easily fall down to a deep whole.

i do have a new hobby, im trying to concentrate on that but its hard to find time for it. ='(

im just loss in this world, where are mine guardian angels? =(

[Schutzengel]

Whitebear. Here are three guardian angels for you.

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Hope things look up for you soon.

[Sarahmitz]

White Bear, I feel very motherly to you & want to be an ally to you against all these fairweather friends. I don't have a pot to p155 in or a window to through it out!! But I am a very assertive preson. That comes with age & experience. To stand up for yourself is right!!! If people are nice to you for your generosity, stop. As was stated earlier learn to like yourself. if you are a good person,stay with it. The fruits will bear. Against your character BE STRONG & FIRM. You WILLfind other friends who are more substantial. It will be hard & you may not like the repercussions- but you started that.

[Sarahmitz]

White Bear, I feel very motherly to you & want to be an ally to you against all these fairweather friends. I don't have a pot to p155 in or a window to through it out!! But I am a very assertive preson. That comes with age & experience. To stand up for yourself is right!!! If people are nice to you for your generosity, stop. As was stated earlier learn to like yourself. if you are a good person,stay with it. The fruits will bear. Against your character BE STRONG & FIRM. You WILLfind other friends who are more substantial. It will be hard & you may not like the repercussions- but you started that.
Sorry Whitebear, just read your last post., I wait willingly for a guardian angel everday!! ' Cos I'm an optimist. Really am worried about you. Please send an e.mail if you want to off load privately, you sound down,& answers can only be found within or talking them out.

[tamborine]

we are your guardian angels...listen to us and try and move forward positively. You haven't killed anyone? Burgled anyone? You've lived an honest life? 3 positives to live by. You have 2 eyes, a nose, mouth etc you're complete. You can use a pc, type, spell, write a note without txt speek....achievements. Am sure there's lots more that's nice about you.....we think so on here. And that's why we're wishing you well and supporting you......get out into the world and grab what's up for you. Gifts dont knock on doors you have to go out and get them.

[WhiteBear]

Thanks Sara

it is hard for me sometimes, i am a nice person, i feel stupid at times, i do anything to please the other and make them happy but never do me a favour.
when i stand up for my self, they take the pi55.
there are times when i get really annoyed on how they treat me i get really assertive towards them. (i can feel my heart beating so fast, and my hands shaking). they hate it and be double nasty back to me.
all i want is everyone to respect me and not walk all over me and use me. but this is the way its been going all my life. - i just feel really annoyed when the nasty people seems to be living a happier life, and gets praised all the time cos they get noticed etc.
:'(
wished i had a happy life.
i so suffer from depression, times i can block it by pushing it back to my head, and keep it to myself. but when it gets too much for me.. it all comes back forward making me feel more depressed and miserable. =(

[WhiteBear]

tamborine -thanks =)
i love angels i have a collections of them, but i still dont feel protected.