slanderous "daughter in law"

[cazzrob]

hi hope someone can help me, 2 weeks ago my son decided to tell me that his girlfriend said that my BF tried to kiss her back in april, i confronted my BF who agreed to take a polygraph test at the cost of �550 and passed with flying colours, she refused to take one or meet up with me to discuss this, since we had the results, she's continued to tell anyone who'l listen that he tried to kiss her, she also said this about an ex partner and has told countless lies over the 6 years iv known her including saying that her son (my grandson) was dead when he was born, which he wasnt! she's now stopped contact with the baby telling people she doesnt think he's safe with us although we've had him at least 3 nites a week since april rite up to her allegation. i was wondering if anyone knew any legal advice i can take before she ruins my BF's reputaion, he's a honest lovely bloke who's done a lot for the baby even tho its not his grandson, iv also never had cause to doubt his fidelity. she's lost all her friends thru her lies, and i actually feel sorry for her as she has a problem telling the truth. TIA ;-)

[NoMercy]

Can I ask what your son feels/says about all this?

[cazzrob]

my son has always got on with my partner, but as selfish as he is, he's on to a good thing with her, living in her house rent free, she buys him stuff all the time, without trying to sound bitchy about her, she is obsessed with my son and will go to ant lengths to keep him! iv actually just had a text from my son after i texted him asking her to stop the rumours and he replied, wot can i do? i live with her and i dont want to move back with u or daddy! sums the relationship up really! i replied saying he could ask her to do the decent thing and admit she was lying for attention as we dont want to take it to court but will if we have to.

[NoMercy]

If you do seek assistance from the courts, would she be likely to stop you seeing your grandson altogether.

[NoMercy]

Sorry, that was a (poorly punctuated) question.

[cazzrob]

she stopped us seeing him for 3 months before, and when she decided we could see him, he didnt know who we were and cried and was frightened, and i told her if she ever did that again, it would have to stop altogether for his sake as i cant bare to see him go thru that again, it breaks my heart not seeing him as he totally loves his mamz (me)and his grumpy (my partner) and it hurts like hell knowing he must be wondering where his mamz and grumpy are after having so much contact with him. but im also not prepared for my partner to have his reputation ruined by her vicious mouth.

[NoMercy]

It sound to me like she is a very insecure and possessive person, and is trying to cause a divide between you and your son, thus strengthening her "grip" on him. Surely your son has some say in whether or not you can have contact with the little lad?

Anyway, if it were me, I would send her a solicitor's letter outlining your concerns for your partner's reputation in the wake of her false allegations. If that doesn't bring her to her senses, then it's time to go to the courts. And you could also get court-appointed access to your grandson, if you can prove that contstant withdrawal and reintroduction. into your lives is causing him emotional distress. Grandparents' rights are recognised now in some cases.

[flip_flop]

Blimey, the Answerbank version of Jeremy Kyle!

[NoMercy]

Don't you mean Jeremy Vile ?

[cazzrob]

thanx mercy, to be honest i think my son is loving his "cushy" lifestyle too much to jeapordise it, he's very selfish! she also uses the threat of not seeing Kian to him too. i think you're right regarding her insecurities, but she's got to stop all this before she does some real damage, and one day something awful could happen to her and no one will believe her. i will ring my solicitor today and take it from there, thank you so much for your advice.x. its much appreciated.x.

[NoMercy]

You're welcome, Cazzrob. I hope you achieve a satisfactory outcome. Let us know how you get on. And btw, your son sounds like he could do with a good kick up the bum ! x

[cazzrob]

thanx again mercy, and ur rite, the bigger the boot, the better.

[Velvetee]

Perhaps she is mentaly ill and none of you realise this. It's not normal to make such accusations and even say your baby is dead when it isn't. It also sounds like your son is taking advantage of her and not offering her the help and support she needs.

It does sound like she's not quite right and perhaps for the sake of your Grandson, you should try to find out the reasons, rather than wanting revenge by taking this obviously vulnerable, somewhat unhinged woman to court.

[cazzrob]

its got nothing to do with revenge, my argument isnt about my grandson, its about her slandering my partner and making accusations about him. i seriously do think that there is something wrong with her, and i pity her but unless she admits shes got a problem theres not much i can do in that department, iv tried being reasonable with her offering up to meet and discuss things, but she wont answer the phone or door to me because she cant face me.