wedding invitation

[Connemmara]

What is your views on this - my very very very good neighbour is having another wedding in August ie their second daughter - I was invited to first and did not go but sent a present etc. (She knows I dont do weddings) but I know another neighbour who has received hers and I know I wont be getting one - I do simply believe it is because my neighbour thinks, well I wont embarrass her with a card (since she wont be going) and therefore believes that she (me) has to buy a present. Well well well I will be giving her a present after all and NOT going to the wedding. Should I have received a wedding invite or what do you think

[Greedyfly]

I think the same as you. She probably decided not to send one as she knows your stance on weddings. I wouldn't be offended by it and I would probably still send a gift.

[China Doll]

No, not unless the daugter particularly asks for you to be there. Your neighbour also knows that you don't do weddings so I can see why she wouldn't bother inviting you. I don't see how you'd be expected to buy a present but if you want to then I'm sure they'd appreciate it.

All seems smooth running to me!

[lumination]

yeah i agree. she knows you dont do weddings but i would still like the neighbour maybe if we pass in the street to say something like 'oh sorry i didnt invite i just know you dont do these things' and that would make me feel better that she KNOWS i dont like them... did that make sense?

[Sqad]

If you are not going to the wedding.....then no wedding present is necessary, whether you "do weddings" or not.

Many wedding invitations now, specify " no presents"..............I go to those ;-)

[Greedyfly]

I don't go to weddings either but I would buy a gift if I classed them as close friend/neighbour/family

[LoftyLottie]

I don't do weddings either. Horrible things!

[Greedyfly]

lmao... I am still annoyed that I will have to go to my own wedding when it happens lol

[LoftyLottie]

I would buy a gift if I were fond of the bride or groom and it wouldn't be from a wretched wedding present list either!

[ummmm]

Some are great. My cousin got married in her garden.

Dress code....none. Shorts and T-shirts are fine.

Presents...none..we have everything we need and want.

Brilliant day.

[LoftyLottie]

Greedy it could be like ours - on a Monday, very informal, just close friends and family and no fineries. No cars, no wedding dress, no nothing except a lunch at home. Mr LL went back to work on nights - (not on our wedding night - but the day after). Master LL doesn't like weddings either so I am hoping that he and his partner will just disappear and get married if they every decide to!!

[Sqad]

ummmm.....blimey.....did the bridegroom turn up? LOL

[LoftyLottie]

That sounds just fine ummmm!! A good sort of wedding. Dressing up posh ain't me!!

[Greedyfly]

I think we shall just be running off to a small place somewhere and do it alone. I have hardly any family left so it seems a waste of time getting them involved. I am sure my mother won't approve but I not really one for faffing about anyway. Simple and effective I think.

[China Doll]

I like going to weddings. They're pretty much the only time I will set foot in a church gracefully.

Although I can't stand massively overdone affairs with more money than sense and a load of guests even the bride and groom don't bloody know. If I ever do it, it'll be a beach affair, I know two people who have been married on the beach and that'll do me just fine.

[yinyang]

I don't really understand what the problem is.

You know you would be refusing the invitation if you got it, your neighbour knows this too, you understand her probable intentions in not sending the invite i.e -to spare you any embarrassment - yet you're miffed that you've not been invited. Making an issue of it sounds like a good way to spoil a friendship.

[ummmm]

Cause he did. Her Dad is extremely wealthy is this wasn't just a back garden jobbie. They just wanted it a casual affair where everyone could relax.

The party started on the Friday where we went to her Dads bar for food and drink. All free. Wedding Saturday...and picnic in the park Sunday...again, all free.

[sue11]

Is there the slightest chance that she may have sent an invite which has got lost in the post?
Personally my feelings are that it would have been nice for your neighbour to have asked you regardless, verbally if not by invite,even if she knows what the answer would be. Then it would be entirely your choice as to buy them a gift or not.
If I were in your shoes and as she is a very good friend, I would just tell her that you realise she knows that you don't do weddings, but you would like to buy a gift. This will take any embarassment out of any unexpected gift coming the happy couples way.
Hope this helps.
Sue

[DEN53]

Sqad - you are such a tight wad - I can hear your bum squeaking from here (:0 (